5 Things Men Do That Women Don’t Like
Every relationship has its ups and downs from time to time. But if you want to forge a successful relationship you should be aware of all the things men do that women aren’t keen on.
Some of these might be obvious but others might come as a surprise. Many of these are things you probably know already, but it’s easy to forget to do what you know you should sometimes isn’t it?
Lying
Being economical with the truth is sometimes forgivable, for example if you are hiding the fact that you’ve bought her something amazing for Christmas and you evade certain questions to keep the surprise under wraps.
But outright lying is definitely not good in any situation and it doesn’t foster honesty. It might keep you out of trouble for now, but it is certainly not a good way to build the foundations for a long term relationship, and the longer you do it the bigger the burden gets.
Messiness
Are you messy? If you are and you’re in a relationship the chances are good that it will drive your partner mad. Try and tidy yourself and your habits up a bit and see how much happier it’ll make her!
You don’t have to completely change who you are, but at least be aware of yourself and show her that you are making an effort, it will be appreciated.
Inability to communicate
Communication is incredibly important to a woman – and to the success of your relationship. If you don’t communicate on a regular basis how do you know if she is happy or not?
Being too submissive
Meekly agreeing to everything without putting your point of view across isn’t the best way to proceed for either of you.
Inability to listen
Hey, what was that? Not listening to anything your partner says constitutes disinterest in the relationship. If you are guilty of not listening don’t be too surprised if your relationship runs onto the rocks in the near future.
Listen, pay attention and understand your partner in more depth – you might be surprised at how good it feels to do this.
If you find it hard to be interested you should probably question why you are even in this relationship..?
Summary
Most men will be guilty of at least one of these five misdemeanors at some point, perfection doesn’t exist and probably wouldn’t be good if it did. I know that I have exhibited many of these traits at least once or twice.
But even if you recognize yourself in the points above, don’t worry. You can start changing things right now and investing more time and effort into your relationship.
If you really love the woman you’re with, it shouldn’t be too difficult to start employing better habits. Be bold, be honest, be communicative, don’t shy away from being brave and clear up that mess. You’ll be glad you did.
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EVO
“Being too submissive” really resonated with me, mainly because that WAS me when I was younger. But submissiveness is the antithesis of the alpha male, and while the annoyingly try-hard “faux machismo”, as I call it, is just as unattractive to some girls (not all), finding the middle ground of being able to stand your ground, make decisions, communicate with confidence, and lead…that is where the magic happens.
Thanks for a great post, Alex!
Martin
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Hey thanks so much for your visit and comment, Evo.
I’m interested in why there needs to be ‘a ground’ to choose in the first place though. In my opinion (and it’s just mine so tell me yours too), the ground to choose needs to be your ground i.e. the natural ground you operate from.
Without the facade or bravado that a typical alpha male may display, I suppose.
Does the world really need more ‘Players’ that are simply out to score instead of finding something genuine?
Views Evo?
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Amanda
This was obviously written by a guy LOL
Alex touched on listening but that isn't what I dislike. When I'm with my girlfriends, it's their way of listening and being empathic that I'd like my partners to learn. We aren't talking sympathy either.
Listen and tell me things are going to be alright, even if they aren't going to be. Support and comfort seems to be a strength in women and I'm sure guys can learn the art if they set their minds to it LOL
Mitch
Ouch, that's a little unfair on the author, Amanda.
Us guys need all the help we can get :)
I know Martin wrote a blog post a little while ago on empathy which I found really helpful and in line with what you're saying. Nice to get a woman's point of view on these things.
I'm dying to see a post on '5 Things Women Do That Men Don't Like' now hahaha
Martin
Twitter: GeekandJock
Thanks for one of the next blog posts, Mitch :)
That article on Empathy vs Sympathy is a good read – that was a good learning for me when I was researching it.
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Martin
Twitter: GeekandJock
Well, your wish will come true, Mitch.
I wrote a blog post on exactly that topic – scheduled to publish the week after next. It's a collection of some of the most common 'complaints' from guys that's been distiller from our Forums plus a smattering of my own thoughts as well (isn't that always the case hahah).
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