When I was out in the cold on the dating cycle a few years ago, my only thoughts were connecting with women in my local area. Well, at least within a few hours drive from where I lived.
I had the thought that long distance relationships were going to be a challenge. In my head, some of those areas were going to include the simple matter of talking, touching and seeing that special person. And indeed, a few interesting ladies did happen by that lived in other cities and towns in Australia.
I quickly dispatched the contact without much conscious thought.
The Next Thing Was Amazing
What happened next was pretty damn amazing and I’ve spoken on various areas in the past.
My wife, Pam, happened! And she’s amazing!
The first connection actually ocurred via Facebook and was reasonably innocent. That was probably the first difference. Just a single ‘out of the blue’ Facebook question about a group I was in. Which I helped answer the best I could. Then another question which prompted me to pay a bit more attention to this new person.
Wow, she’s gorgeous, was my first and recurring thoughts. At this point, I also noticed Pam lived in Cape Town, South Africa – now that’s a long distance plane flight. Be that as it may, this is just an innocent typed message for some assistance.
I think the difference here was I was just rolling with the punches, going with the flow to see where things went. At the very least, Pam would be a great pen-pal and a very interesting person to chat to.
Well, that didn’t last long. Within days, we were messaging each other on Facebook every few hours and the frequency started picking up as well.
It Really Is A Mental Thing
You’ll likely see an insurmountable wall of distance between you and your potential soulmate. ‘Would it be easier to find someone else?’. That basically depends on whether you think it’s worthwhile in discovering new potential, a different and interesting culture, expand your thinking as well as moving outside your comfort zone.
The Long Distance Easy Bits
Without question, communication in this Internet Age is simple and easy. Even using a dialup modem can get high quality voice calls using things like Skype or MSN Messenger. If you’ve got broadband availability, then your faraway romance just got better.
Video Skype is just like being there, without the touching. You can talk for hours at zero cost – and believe me, Pam and I did just that.
What Are Some Long Distance Challenges?
Well, the big one for me was physical touch.
Again, getting past this point is certainly another one of those mental processes.
There’s other physical challenges obviously and you can certainly get around those with some imagination. Something new to try.
And There’s Some Interesting Gifts
Interestingly enough, one of the gifts is also the biggest challenge. Without the complication of physical contact, getting to know the other person takes on a whole new meaning. You’ll find conversation becomes a thirst. A deeper understanding of the other person stakes place much faster than a local romance. I found the whole situation really amazing as well as unusual.
Your Turn Now
How do you make long distance relationships work?
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