Do You Want Dating Tips or Experiences?
Okay so let’s face it, being a single lady has tons of perks right?
Buying Shoes Is Easier!
Buying shoes we know we can’t afford without being lectured, watching “girl movies,” without someone begging to watch “the big game” instead, and staying out all night with no one to answer to can really be liberating, but after a little while, even the most independent woman craves a little male companionship.
If you’re like many single, successful and fabulous women (which I’m sure you are!) about a year or more into your singleness, you may start experiencing the are-all-the-good-guys-really-taken syndrome.
While it does seem difficult to find “Mr. Right,” you just need to stop giving the many “Mr. Wrongs” out there any of your time.
Here are 3 dating tips or experiences that should make you want to turn and run, not walk, RUN away from these men.
1. On your first date he ONLY talks about himself.
The 1st of our dating tips is about ongoing chatter about himself.
Granted people are nervous on first dates and you certainly don’t get the whole picture after meeting someone once but there are certain characteristics that may begin to show themselves early on.
Carrying on and on about himself without asking you anything about yourself is a warning sign of a man who will be selfish in the relationship.
While we have come a long way from traditional courtship roles, like it or not it’s an animal instinct for a man to be the “hunter” and the woman the “hunted.”
I can hear my fellow feminists screaming in horror at this statement but really from my point of view a man should be trying his hardest to listen and learn about who you are.
A bit of mystery is great but you should develop this by choosing to say what you would like and not because you are forced into silence due to his non-stop chatter.
2. He immediately refers to you as “baby” or “sweetheart.”
Yes, terms of endearment are nice to hear…but not right away.
My thought when a man does this is either he doesn’t remember my name so he uses a non-descript pet name or he is just used to schmoozing women.
Either way, I’m not impressed and you shouldn’t be either.
A man needs to get to a certain place in a relationship before he starts throwing these names around – a place where you are both comfortable and respect each other equally.
3. He doesn’t pick up the check
Now, these dating tips are tricky.
I am all for going Dutch once the relationship is established, but let’s narrow this rule down to the first few dates. Again, he is trying to vie for your affection and he should be pulling out all the stops.
You are a catch and deserve to be treated like one.
Make him work!
Nothing worth having comes easily and by him doing something as little as picking up the check, he is showing he enjoys your company and likes taking care of you.
Of course, 6 months or a year into the relationship (or whenever the two of you are comfortable) I am all for changing this up.
But if he doesn’t offer on the first date and he is the one who asked you out, chances are he is going to be just another “Mr. Wrong.”
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Emily Murray wrote a dating column once upon a time and is a contributing writer for KwikMed, the exclusive online distributor for the new morning after pill that every single lady should know about just in case “Mr. Right” does come along!
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Love this article. All 3 are clear warning signals that this guy may not be for you! Another one to add to the list is if he is rude to other people whilst on your date. Say if your date is at a restaurant, and he is just awkward and down right nasty to the waiters/waitresses, or picks an argument with someone on the table behind you….oh no, time to grab those running shoes girl and go!
Well, I like these tips but I pretty much knew how this would go. Though i haven’t started dating again but these reminders help. It will probably take me
another year or so before i go on the market. I am want to be a little more
prepare in many ways. I do have some trust issues that I am working on….
Yeah, I took 6 months or so out before I went on the market after my divorce. For me, I needed to sort out my baggage and discover why and what to do next so those past issues wouldn’t resurface. A good thing to do so your next encounter can be more successful than the past.
And trust issues, I think, will always be around somewhere. It’s a matter of telling the ‘trust demon’ to piss off and find someone else to bother because you’re moving on and getting on with life.
Does that make sense?
Love the tip on "baby" and "sweetheart" remarks. On a first date and even second and third, that’s just such a no no. Less is more with those sorts of remarks. Early familiarity all too often points to contempt.
Hey Anna,
I kind of agree and disagree lol
I thought about what you said and some of my past dates. It’s the creepy ones that call me baby that I find off-putting but the ones I’M interested in, I don’t mind so much lol
Sounds funny I know and maybe that’s just me :)
Thanks for the guest post on your dating tips, Emily.
Certainly an interesting read. I'm guessing there's always areas that guys need to be aware of that they might not otherwise be clued up in. So great to get some education from a woman's point of view.