Here’s my own tips that I’ve had success with when I’ve had problems in what I thought were healthy relationships, with my past partners.
And by the looks of things, it’s really great that Geek and Jock is now for both men and women so hopefully I’ll get some feedback on the relationship advice that I’ve posted, from the ladies too.
Learn Better Relationship Togetherness
I know we all have relationship problems, from time to time, and those relationships sometimes get stale and it’s something that sneaks up on you both. It’s not a fault, it just ‘is’ and certainly something to have in your mind, to keep an eye on.
Sometimes I pick it up just in time and at other times I don’t; which can cause difficulties and arguments. But anyway, you’ll know your own mutual interests and those of just her (or him, for the ladies and gays). It’s really simple to do too.
What interests your partner – maybe something as simple as shopping which a lot of guys tend to dislike. Don’t look at it as shopping but rather look at it as togetherness, closeness and a gift – it’ll take on a whole new meaning for you.
Maybe even learn or do something completely new – never had a game of tennis or golf? Give it a shot as it opens you both up to discovery and a mutual challenge.
Rethink the situation
You know, often when the situation gets quite heated, the first thought that comes into my mind is to simply bail out and move on and I’m sure that thought is a mutual one.
Your best move is to calm the hell down, look at what the situation is really all about and start talking to your partner and resolve things. Yep, that old line of ‘Talk to her, calmly, honestly and openly’
As in every relationship I’ve ever had, there’s the fighting, arguing and screaming matches – no relationship is perfect and situations crop up that get on each other’s nerves. So you do resolve the problem. Right before that makeup sex, forget the ‘I love you’ cliche and give her a jolt of brutal honesty.
“You know, beautiful, you’re the only person I’d ever tolerate talking to me that way. You’re that amazing”
And it’s true isn’t it? You love her and that love allows them the latitude for being frank and brutal with you – let them know that and they have a very special place in your life.
This is an easy one. The journey from that first date to where you are now has likely seen you forgetting some of those habits and rituals that you first used when dating. You know those nice little things like bringing her flowers, resisting that male urge to fart in front of her or even opening the car door for her.
You’ll be really surprised how much the chivalrous rituals of old times really do have an impact on your ladies’ happiness so reinstate some of them for her.
No, I don’t mean in a brutal way ☺ A mini-maul, mildly rough nuzzling and it’s gentle and all for her to show them you’re really ‘into’ them. Just do a mini-maul for 10 seconds without your head thinking that it’s sex related – it’s ‘her’ related. And do it when she least expects it too – a surprise.
What about you?
Well, those are some of my winning ways in saving the situation from going to the trash bin. What do you think of them? Do you have some of your own that you’d like to share as there’s always more we can do for our partners when it comes to relationships.
Let me know your own relationship saving tips in the feedback below.