10 Second Anonymous Poll – Vote Below
What difference does telling a little white lie to your partner really make?
Isn’t it innocent and trivial?
Would you tell a small untruth to save your partner from an embarrassment or hurt or harm?
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“I try not to lie to my husband. I’ve done a few little white lies in the past to save him from upset and hurt. And then explained the situation at a better and more appropriate time when I thought he was in a better mood.”
“Lying in any form in a relationship leads to constantly having to cover up a previous lie, with yet another lie. And then once you’ve been discovered, there’s no way to recover that loss of trust. My advice: telling the truth in the first instance is always the best option, no matter what the consequences are likely to be.”
“Listen, I’m my own man and have my own take on the level of truth I deem appropriate to the situation with my girlfriend. If I feel I’m going to be in a better situation by lying to her, then I will. No way am I going to come out the loser for the sake of a bit of truth manipulation.”
My Own Relationship Confusion
I’ve listened and watched a number of very recent programs on this topic.
What I found personally confusing were the high percentage of people who admit to lying and will continue to lie to their partners.
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I voted on the option, "Yes – But Only If I Clarify The Facts Later", because some time we tell lie to save our relation and i don't think it is such bad to tell a lie to save your relationship to tell a lie to get closer to the one you love. As it is said "All is fair in Love and War."
TheGeek
Twitter: GeekandJock
Thanks for the comment.
Isn't that a case of if your partner knows you lie, no matter what the time you did it, that they understand you'll lie when your own needs arise?
I'd be interested in better understanding why you think you're unable to tell the truth in any particular situation and explain yourself then.
Adrienne
Twitter: adriennesmith40
Great post Martin and I have to go with no lying, period.
My friends and family know that I will always tell them the truth, my truth. If someone asks me a question, I will give them my honest answer. I'm not the kind of person who is mean or malicious in any way and I certainly don't go out of my way to hurt anyone's feelings, but don't ask me if you don't want to know how I really feel.
I've had girlfriends ask me if I thought the guy they were dating was right for them. I would have a conversation with them and sometimes I needed to have few before I could get a sense of that person. I'm very intuitive in that way, always have been. I would then give them my honest opinion and trust me, I am always looking out for their best interest. They would ignore my answers because it wasn't what they wanted to hear. Sure enough, I would prove myself right and they would eventually be hurt. But, I told the truth as I saw it and I've yet to prove myself wrong.
Enjoyed this one and I love that the majority of people agree, no lying whatsoever.
Adrienne
TheGeek
Twitter: GeekandJock
Thanks so much for stopping by, Adrienne, and giving freely of your thoughts too.
It's interesting to read Twitter comments that some women actually want to be lied to – they'd rather avoid being told they have (in their words) a fat arse and prefer to be lied to, in that regard. My comment to these is there is always a level of diplomacy which can be used to retain the truth always being spoken.
That said, perhaps it is due to lying being so prevalent in today's society that some of us equilibrate it as normal interaction?