The Top 3 Relationship Mistakes You Can Fix Right Now

We're going to talk about fixing a few of the big relationship mistakes here. For a lot of people, the more energy we spend on our relationships, it’s like the less we know about them.

I include myself in this category when I say I so terribly desire a happy, harmonious and fruitful relationship with my partner BUT sometimes it seems like we take one step forward and soon after, it’s two steps back.

Ever had that feeling yourself? Relationship mistakes over and over again?

 

Here’s some help that might help you understand some of those wrongs:

Mistake 1:

Failure To Understand Your Lover

You might ‘think’ you know what’s going on but chances are you are clueless.

not listening is one of biggest relationship mistakes

Are you really listening? Really?

It’s challenging to read someone’s mind.

OK, I know it’s impossible so you get my point – you DON’T know what’s going on in his or her mind.

 

And therein lies one reason why relationship success is going to elude you.

What To Do Instead:

It’s About Mindset, Listening and Relationship Harmony

If what you’ve always done in the past hasn’t borne the successful fruit that you thought it would then doing the same thing will always fail.

As difficult as it initially might seem, you simply HAVE to adopt a different view of things.

Are you really listening and understanding?

When your partner is talking to you, are you giving your entire concentration to the conversation?

Do you view things in an antagonistic way or harmonious and a win-win way? Hint: The latter is the right way.

If you’ve got other things on your mind and can’t shake them, it might be prudent to either explain that to them OR excuse yourself (if you won’t get skinned alive) and reconvene immediately after you’ve taken care of business.

 

Mistake 2:

Not Interested In Mutual Goals

We’ve touched on goal setting for relationships, a little bit before.

Most people haven’t a clue on what each other’s goals are, let alone the goals of the relationship.

If you don’t talk and plan to be a success together, you’re leaving it all to chance and will continue to approach your journey together in a totally haphazard way.

Would you leave your fate, financial status and life’s destination to chance?

What To Do Instead:

Create a Space, Talk and Make the Success

This is an easy one. Talk and explain what you both want and plan for magic and success, with sensible compromise. Start small and decide on a few easy and achievable goals and set a date to keep talking.

The more you do it, the better you’ll get.

 

Mistake 3:

Thinking Your Lover Is Your Business Partner

Who are they to you, primarily?

They should be your best friend, lover and confidante.

Never think of your partner and lover as someone who exists to get the bills paid. That’s just plain wrong and the priorities are out of order. How would you feel if your lover thought of you as a gravy train instead of with eyes of love?

What To Do Instead:

Forget Life Is Challenging.

Despite the challenges you both face in life, the priority for you both is ‘the success of you both’.

Your lover is your fun loving playmate. He or she is your companion.

You both must somehow find these qualities within each other and respect and honour them.

While the business side of things is important, your mutual success of the business side ultimately depends on the relationship foundations first. Without the pillars of foundation, the house will eventually crumble.

 

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Martin runs this joint. He recognises relationship mistakes and misfortunes happen – that's just life and shit happens. He's passionate in seeking and maintaining the magic in his partnership and wants you to have the same.

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