I have been questioning her recently about her changing and when I bring it up she agrees that she has changed. I ask her why and she cant answer, she just doesn't know. She gets offended and angry whenever I bring something like that up and she says it makes her self-conscious. Our 2 lifestyles are differing right now and I think she is going to continue to change in a matter that continues to differ with our relationship.
It does make sense, she knows there is something wrong right now so we will get lunch sometime soon and I will talk with her using some techniques from the posts you referenced. Hopefully it is something that we will be able to work out together. She has been great to me but how she is changing is scarring me.