MartinKeymasterJuly 22, 2012 at 1:38 amPost count: 250
Pam and I have recently been reading and ploughing through a wonderful eBook on multiple orgasms.
That’s multiple orgasms for men, by the way. I’ll get to publishing a review on it, as soon as I can.
Anyway, a regular practise within the lead-up to unlocking that little secret is massages – genital massages, in fact.
Let me tell you right now, a 15 – 20 minute gentle genital massage is something amazing. For both partners.
It’s done without a word spoken. Why that’s so incredible is it’s completely non-judgmental. There isn’t any comment made by anyone. The party being massaged just lays back, eyes closed and enjoys all the sensations and mindful images that their thoughts can conjure.
For the one giving the massage, they in total control of what they’d like to explore, they control the pace and they do it their way. Brilliant!
You just have to try it.
Massage and Lubricants
Which brings me to the question and reason for the forum post.
When you do a massage, you also need a lubricant or oil. We tried a water based sexual lubricant for the first few massages but, on the skin, the water must absorb and it becomes quite sticky.
I’m also a qualified therapeutic masseur (something I just wanted to do a few years ago) so I’ve got quite a few different varieties of massage oils, on hand. They didn’t quite do the trick because part of ‘the massage control’ also means you can explore with hands, lips and mouth. Normal massage oil isn’t really meant to be taken orally.
I knew you’d ask that :)
Well, some research made a brilliant discovery – Coconut Oil is heaven sent!
- Lovely flavour
- sweet smell
- great for the skin
- lasts and lasts during a long massage
- it’s free of chemicals
- can be used equally well both inside and out
- and is organic – that’s a great testimonial.
One thing to remember on buying it though.
You can get Coconut Oil from just your regular Supermarket so it’s a handy item and doesn’t look as weird as buying ‘Stiff Jacks Sexual Power Lube’ at the check-out.
Just remember that it’s likely to be found in the Asian Cooking aisle and not where cooking oils are found – that’s my tip from experience.
How About You and Lubricants and Oils?
Now I’ve shared a tidbit – anyone else got another favourite all-round sexual lubricant and massage oil they’d like to share?
PiercedLoveAugust 19, 2012 at 11:38 amPost count: 0
Oh nice one LOL
Lubricants are sometimes a much needed aid in love making. Either from a lack of natural lubrication or where, ahem, there isn't any and you need some to make things glide in and out lol.
Thanks so much for proving that you don't need those chemical based lubes that are also more expensive and we can use something provided so readily by Mother Nature.
Oh and thank you as well for allowing people to answer and ask questions anonymously – makes it a bit easier for those of us that are a little shy lol
MitchOctober 19, 2012 at 9:48 amPost count: 0
I just recently tried this. Loved I could buy in the Chinese food area too. That isn't like placing a tube of lube on the checkout counter hehehe
And it works terrific too. Not sticky, with that great coconut smell that everyone loves. Thanks for the tip, guys.
MikeOctober 21, 2012 at 11:53 amPost count: 0
I was going to say coconut oil too, it's great. Also cocoa butter
MikeOctober 22, 2012 at 3:42 pmPost count: 0
Well cocoa butter is too hard to apply easily so my wife and I make our own body butter by melting some coconut oil, cocoa butter and olive oil together then as it cools whip it into butter. We use it for moisturizing and it works great as a lubricant too. The coconut/cocoa scent is tantalizing too
These two natural oils are the best thing for your skin, so I'm glad you mentioned it as an alternative
SandraMemberJuly 23, 2013 at 4:07 pmPost count: 3
wow coconut oil?! I would have never thoughts so! Must be a bit sticky? but could be fun and tasty!… ;)
Me and my partner use Viamax it includes shea butter and cocoa butter, so its kind of creamy lubricant. Its organic, smells good and just feel great!
MartinKeymasterJuly 23, 2013 at 4:21 pmPost count: 250
Funny you should comment on this one, Sandra.
It was only yesterday that I discovered coconut oil is also a natural anti-wrinkle product as well.
So now you can use it from top to bottom (pardon the intentional pun :) )
It isn't really sticky at all but you do need to towel off excess amounts afterwards. We buy the organic variety of coconut oil from the Asian cooking section in the supermarket. I'll resist a ‘heating up the kitchen' joke here.
As for Viamax, I looked it up. I'd have to say it looks like it's also got some preservatives but that's an uneducated opinion since it's manufactured but who knows. I bet it isn't as cheap to buy than Coconut oil from the Asian section :)
Andrea JonesParticipantAugust 1, 2013 at 10:04 pmPost count: 1
You are right water based lubricants do absorb into the skin. You could try Silicone lubricants that are just as safe but last longer but some of them are not safe to use with silicone sex toys so bare that in mind.
I like the idea of coconut oil, I have used it to moisturise but bringing it into the bedroom might be something I will have to try soon. Not sure how it will react with condoms though.
MartinKeymasterAugust 2, 2013 at 10:09 amPost count: 250
Well Andrea, since you do work with this stuff so much, we're srue you'll have a more indepth report to come back with :)
Since coconut oil is such a pure and natural substance, I wouldn't have thought it would react any different to normal bodily fluids but since I've never used a condom before, that's just a wild-assed guess.
Why would you think it might react since it's natural though?
BellaMemberAugust 7, 2013 at 8:51 amPost count: 23
lol this is kinda funny and cool all at the same time. Like Andrea, I use coconut oil for skin and love it and never ever thought of using it in a lovemaking kind of way lol
I'm more interested in what Andrea has to say about the condom stuff since I feel kinda funny about the whole silicon thing. I knwo my bf says it's what everyone uses but i don't know about it being really natural.
JohnMemberNovember 14, 2013 at 7:32 pmPost count: 2
nice article on lubricants i think those chocolate lubricants etc are also common in market now
AnonymousFebruary 19, 2016 at 3:32 amPost count: 1
I just bought this lubricant because a friend of mine recommended it to me. I got home and placed three pumps on my finger, placed it on my “you know” and not even a minute later I started to feel arousal. This stuff is amazing, I'm not even having foreplay right now, just sitting and watching TV. I can't wait to see how it feels when I'm actually aroused and going through foreplay.
AnonymousNovember 14, 2013 at 12:47 pmPost count: 1
Wow, that seems to be impressive, I never thought of coconut have that special purpose to enhance sexual desire.. so far I am just using guidelines and products offered by another place, they have several mens personal care product. so far I am also satisfied with, but I am also thinking to try your natural option.
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