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  • Ashley
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    Ive been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I love him to death. He's an amazing guy and everyone loves him He treats me right, respects me, encourages me, supports me, and is always there.

    Hes been with me through some pretty rough times and.has never give up on me. I love him so much and idk what id do without him. But lately I've been wondering if I want to be with him.

    Idk if its because we spend so much time together that I just need space or what. I need advice.

    I don't wanna leave and lose someone that special but I'm confused.

    Thank you.

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    Keymaster
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    Hi Ashley,

    Well, I think you need to give me a little more insight in why you'd actually want to leave.
    As far as I can see, you've got a great guy who values who you are and you want to get rid of him. I'm unfortunately unable to determine your reasons as you haven't given any.

    Can to elaborate a little? That really would be wonderful, Ashley.

  • Ashley
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    I just feel confused there is no.reason really. I just dont feel happy as I used to be

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    Keymaster
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    Hey Ashley,

    To be honest, there's always a reason.

    If you're not as happy as you used to be, what sort of happiness did you have then that has changed?
    What are your expectations now that aren't being fulfilled? I'd like you to be reasonably clear on what your current relationship expectations are too, otherwise it's a little challenging to make suggestions on what possibilities you might like to take.

    Has he changed or have you changed, in relation to your expectations?

  • Ashley
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    Well I go to colleg 2 1/2 hours away so I feel like this puts a lot of stress on the relationship. I have changed since we've started dating, but I've grown up nothing bad. I just feel like I'm not good enough for anyone and I think it's causing me to try to think of reasons that aren't there to break us up…even though there are no real reasons to. I'm just scared I'm going to get hurt.

    But, we've been talking about everything and it seems to be getting better.

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    Keymaster
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    Thanks for that extra info, Ashley.

    You've got a mindset change that needs happen, you know.

    ‘I feel like' … ‘I'm not good enough' … and the real decider of the issue is … ‘I'm just scared'

    OK, did you know that most everyone gets scared they're going to get hurt? Check out an old blog post on Trust Becomes The Glue For Love for a brief overview.

    True love with the ideal person who is meant for you is actually something worth going through a bit of pain for. Life will throw curve balls and you need to know that. Anything less means you'll end up as a lonely woman living by yourself with cats.

    Search for other material on the site too, to help you. Keep focussed on happiness and the things you do want as opposed to straying into negatives.

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