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Editor: A good follow up from our previous blog Can Long Distance Relationships Work as well as The Top 5 Ways To Make It In A Long Distance Relationship.
A Challenge That’s Worth the Distance
Long distance relationships can be very challenging, especially if you’re thousands of miles apart.
It’s hard to maintain a good relationship when the other person is away from you.
When you go to college, making a long distance relationship work can be tough.
So here are some useful tips on how to make your relationship successful:
Display Your Love
Show your loved one how thoughtful and sweet you are.
Display the love you feel – there’s so many ways that you can
Every other week, try to send a handwritten love letter to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
A hand written letter has a more personal touch compared to emails or text messages.
If you want to make it more romantic, try to write a poem, send some flowers, chocolates, or personalized gifts to make your loved one feel extra special.
Be Positive
Try to be positive in everything you do.
According to Dr. Gregory Guldner, author of the book “Long Distance Relationships: The Complete Guide,” couples who look at their separation on a positive view are more likely to make their long distance relationship work.
You might be away from your special someone but it will still be a good thing for you both.
Busy, Busy, Busy
Keep yourself busy.
Try to keep yourself busy while waiting for your boyfriend or girlfriend’s call or message.
You can keep yourself more productive and busy by joining organizations, or spending time with your friends, or simply by studying hard.
Such activities will help divert your attention and reduces the loneliness you may feel with the absence of your loved one.
Keep To The Plan, Stan
Set up dates and plan visits.
Remember all the special dates you’ve scheduled such as anniversaries or birthdays.
Take some effort to visit your boyfriend or girlfriend as scheduled.
Setting up the dates in advance will keep you both excited and therefore, look forward to seeing each other again.
Remember Facetime Too
You can also plan some visits during vacations and think of fun and worthwhile activities to keep you both happy.
Take note that making long distance relationships work takes a lot of effort, commitment, and determination.
Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion
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- What’s been some of your biggest long distance relationship challenges?
- What’s one extra LDR area you believe can help others with?
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Jane
Twitter: MerryRelations
Long distance relationship takes time to get over with or to cope with. Over the time mostly, people get used to it. But the earlier days are going to be tough.
Jane recently posted..Once A Cheater Always A Cheater
Martin
Twitter: GeekandJock
Thanks for stopping in and commenting, Jane.
Long distance relationships can be frightfully frustrating. I’ve been there myself with Pam. It can be really tough and challenging, especially when you’ve been used to close physical contact in all previous relationships.
You can overcome these adversities though, if you have a solid understanding of the pitfalls and how to overcome them though.
Martin recently posted..You’re In A Long Distance Relationship – Where To Next?
Esther
Hi
I have gone through this article and am here to say that the article is very rich. My own contribution base on distance relationship is that it is to be build on trust. Trust is the key towards distance relationship because if you are far from each other and you don't trust him/her you cannot also believe him. so many things may have gone wrong in any distance relationship but i assure you that with trust on both side, you can build a more stronger relationship.
Martin
Twitter: GeekandJock
Welcome and thanks for the comment, Esther.
For sure, trust is key to a lasting relationship. That includes and is especially true of long distance relationships. Interestingly, long distance relationships can be strained in the trust department since things can be misunderstood easier through a lack of presence. That is certainly a lesson Pam and I learnt when we were in an LDR. Takes time and effort.
My recent post Top 5 Ways to Make It In A Long Distance Relationship
Karin
Hi,
I'm the developer of the JustUs iPhone app that was mentioned above..
I love the post, and you are certainly right, to be in a long distance relationship requires a lot of work from both of the sides, like everything else in our life that we want to succeed.
From the research me and my partner conduct we found that 41% of couples regularly send text messages, emails, and use social media sites like FB even when they are together! So when you think about it, with today's technology there are some ways to fill the gap in the long distance relationship. Just imagine how it was 20 years ago…
If you want to find more about our app you can check our short clip here: http://www.capplefactory.com/justus/
Or follow us on twitter @CappleFctory (capple= Apps for couples)
fairy86
should we do sex i a LDR wen meeting once a month?
TheGeek
Twitter: GeekandJock
Thanks for commenting, fairy86
Kind of a lack of information in a short comment though.
Are you having sexual relations at the moment though? I'd suggest it really is a chemisty thing though. If it feels the right thing to do at the time, sex is the right thing. If you're still not up to the sexual part of your relationship, take it slow and be mindful of each other's feelings and talk about sex and how you both feel about it.
It's a wonderful area of a relationship and having said that, it needs to be the right time for both of you.
Jane
Hi..
My BF bought me iphone app (we both use iphone) called "JustUs" which is very cute and helpful when trying to keep close relationship in long distance :)
Arisk & Liza
Great to hear that there are people giving advice helping couples like us to maintain and succeed a long distance relationship..
A relationship of this kind can be very fulfilling if both of the sides put their effort and time into it! the most important thing is to be committed, open and work on it all the time!
We would love to keep reading! thanks for the tips!
Visit our blog, we talk about very similar subjects there:
http://www.letloverule.me
Btw, do you have twitter? connect to us! it will be great to share our experience – @letloverule_me.
Good day and thanks!
Ariel & Liza.
TheGeek
Twitter: GeekandJock
Hey there Ariel & Liza.
Great to see you stopping by here.
Personally, many people including myself view a long distance relationship as a no-go – something they've probably never contemplated before and therefore shy away from experiencing it. When two people 'click', despite distance, nothing else should matter to move forward in looking to make it work. Obviously other things might get in the way – distance shouldn't be one of them.
I'll add your twitter account too – our main one is @GeekandJock so do look us up too.