It's difficult for parent & child to alter their relationship. Our nature is to protect. Healthy relationships view each other's motivations & feelings.
Life with a newborn can be both predictable – feed, sleep, poo, bath – and overwhelming. While you are settling into a routine with your baby and getting to know her, you won’t just have no time as a couple, but you may even fight over household tasks, who does night-time parenting, and mundane things like that.