The 5 Step Plan Before Meeting Someone From Online
Online dating has become the norm for many singles.
It doesn’t matter how often you date that first meeting is always the most nerve wracking.
Before you meet for drinks there are some things you want to do to make sure that your first date goes smoothly and successfully, check it out:
Check Them Out
Once you have decided to schedule a first date you want to make sure they are actually who they appear to be.
You can do something as easy as googling their name and Facebooking them.
This will give you an idea of who they are as well as pull up anything newsworthy. You can always take it a step further by running a background check on the person. This may seem extreme but definitely necessary.
I had a friend who was planning to meet up with a man she met online but did an online search for any public records and sure enough the man had been in trouble with domestic violence arrest.
Once you have chosen a place and time to meet this new person, tell someone.
Tell a friend or family member where you are going, at what time, what time they should expect you home and with whom.
Give them that person’s information, name, photo, contact info etc. Unfortunately, not everyone online is trustworthy and you need to always be careful, telling a friend where you are will help in case something arises.
With that said, don’t go into the date worried that something bad is going to happen, just always be aware of what is going on around you.
Don’t rush into things before you are ready.
Take the time you need to get to know the person before meeting them to make sure this is someone you could potentially date. Emails, phone calls and texts are a good way to communicate.
Have fun with it and take turns asking fun questions like ‘What did you want to be when you grew up’ etc.
Agree to a first date when you feel ready and comfortable.
Keep positive and remember that first dates are infamous for going wrong.
Dating can be tough but shouldn’t be stressful.
Everyone is typically nervous on their first date or two, so give them some credit.
It’s okay if the first date lacks spark, try it again and see where that leaves you. A connection comes in many different forms and may take longer for some.
Once you have decided to make the move, plan something that is simple and a good opportunity for you two to chat.
Skip the obvious movie and dinner dates and try something like a park picnic or mini golf.
Keep the dates short so that way you can always have a way out fast if needed. A good first date to try out is the ‘let’s grab a bite and a drink’, so that way you don’t have to sit through a long meal if you both are uncomfortable.
And if you two hit off you are more than welcome to extend the date into a dinner, desert or another drink.
Online dating can be tons of fun if you keep a positive attitude and plan interesting dates.
Remember safety comes first and to only plan to meet if you are one hundred percent comfortable and confident in the date.
Good luck and happy dating!
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