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10 Things You Can Do Right Now To Be a Lot Happier

The majority of unhappiness involves the negative aspects of life permeating our brains.

Those little demon voices start niggling away at whatever positive energy and thoughts we’re maintaining at the time.

They say ‘Hey, don’t believe that, it’s worse than you think’ or ‘Do you really believe them?

They’ve made a mistake in the past so it’s likely they’re screwing up now, don’t you think?’

you deserve to be happier than you are now
Of course you do and here’s how to get it

Leading you in a spiral downwards into un-happiness.

Let’s change your thinking and focus on positive energies, leading you out and into happiness.


Accept Your Own Responsibility

There’s nothing worse than being on the receiving end of blame.

And it’s a mirror strategy i.e. those that blame also are impacted by the negative.

Accepting responsibility for failure promotes acceptance. Acceptance leads to the promotion of success strategies and success leads to mental health and happiness.

Do you accept responsibility, for both your own and others’ failures?


Just Be Yourself

Pretending to be anything that you’re not is simply a lie and a facade of deceit. We all do it though – and probably trying too hard to be accepted in the eyes of others.

Truth is that people are more accepting of another human being that you might think.

Why don’t you accept yourself?

When you can believe in yourself, you’re shedding layers of unwanted bullshit as well as being able to concentrate more on improving the qualities YOU think need improving.



To be your true self also requires confidence in your own abilities.

Today’s world is full of doubters and naysayers – typically coming from other people lack of confidence in themselves.

Carrying a proud self-worth invigorates you and promotes confidence in you by others.

When you’re viewed as a confident person, by others, they are boosting your happiness


Listen and Learn

Taking a real and active interest in other people has a number of happiness aspects which causes a domino effect.

Think back to when you were last taken an interest in.

Made you feel good all over, didn’t it?

The Law of Reciprocity dictates the more you’re interested in others, the more they become interested in you.

It’s ‘Happiness Ping-Pong,’ at it’s finest. You’ll learn real facts about other fascinating people and they’l yearn to know and talk to you, more and more.



Which would you rather experience in life?

  • Being constantly whinged and complained at and about?
  • Or … Praised for doing a good job and coached when you might have made a slip-up?

If you picked the first, you better get gotta here :) (only joking, you need to read this more than anyone else)

help someone with a good dose of praise
Help someone with a good dose of praise

It was a loaded question, guilty as charged. If you feel happy and good, on the inside, when mentored and praised, it stands to reason that this is a good habit to foster and coach in others.

People are all intuitively perceptive in recognising a good habit to adopt and reflect on others.

You’ll be one of them and expand your happiness frontiers further.


Unify and Come Together

We human beings are a funny old lot. We are pack animals who love to share, with giving friendship and honesty.

When we’re close to people from a relationship perspective, happiness endorphins start firing off inside us, making the ‘Happiness Beans’ start jumping.

If you’re thinking of controlling people with negative emotions or intent, you won’t get the jumping beans and you’ll eventually get more of the same negative Karma coming you’re way.


Be Constructive and Build Lasting Bridges

If You Build It, They Will Come

You can either tear it down or build it up, with yourself and with others. Your choice to chase the negative or positive.

Much like praise, maintaining a positive mindset in bridging gaps and building solid, honest relationships has a foundational tendency towards holistic happiness, in those around you and yourself.

If you see yourself tending towards being critical (to you or others), do the exact opposite.

What positive steps can you take to overcome the gap?

  • Repair the bridge?
  • Fill the void with a solution.



Empathy is often overlooked, in both men and women, despite women telling you otherwise. It isn’t natural in most people.

empathy has the power to heal and bring joy and happiness
Empathy has the power to heal and bring joy and happiness.

What is natural is to have someone just listen to you when you’re in a rough patch.

  • People like to have a little vent.
  • It clears the mind.
  • Enables the negative to escape, making room for positive solutions to fill the vacancy.

Be the person who can listen – you’ll need someone like that at another point in time to restore a lull in your happiness levels.


Keep Moving, Keep Changing

A Rolling Stone Gathers No Moss

What really is the point with dwelling on crap you can’t change?

Yet people do it and retain high levels of negative bullshit in their lives, don’t they?

Moral of the short story is being successful brings happiness.

Success (in anything) brings a positive and reinforcing emotion.

It can be challenging to recognise this in yourself, to begin with. Start small and internalise about areas you’re having some blocks with. You’re likely to be taking the same action over and over.

Now it’s time for a different pace. Time to think outside the square you’re in and change gears. You’ll go nowhere other than the same depressive state.


Success breeds happiness – Change what you’re doing wrong to doing right.


Be Adventurous and Inquisitive

This isn’t about bungee jumping off a tall building (unless you really want to).

As it turns out, common block to higher levels of happiness is being in a rut in life, brought about by fear of the unknown. It’s debilitating at it’s worst.

Another start small and move to bigger and brighter things area of life.

As an example, I used to always drink black coffee.

Might not sound much. I did make a conscious effort to always try a different coffee type when I was out with people.

Boy, did I discover some beautiful coffee.

Just that small change made me happier and that’s what life is about.


Moral Of The Long Story

Increments in happiness snowball into an extraordinary happy life.


Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion

Nice to see you made it to the end of the post. Here’s what you can do next:

  • Can you see real tangible value in being happier than you are now?
  • Which one are you going to try first?
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And thanks for reading too – Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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Martin enjoys life to the max and strives to be a better man than he is today. If you’re interested in our Lifestyle or Relationship products that have been hand crafted personally, check out of Online Store.

Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

12 thoughts on “10 Things You Can Do Right Now To Be a Lot Happier”
  1. Great post Martin. These are all great tips but I think a change of mindset cannot happen over night. You need to actively try to not worry about the petty things by telling yourself that they do not matter and eventually you will stop stressing more and more.

    I like what you have written about friendship. Any worries and neurosis that you might have always seem allot smaller after you have talked to someone about them.

  2. Very informative post to be happier in life. I think happiness come from inside. If you are tension less or without worry, you can enjoy happy life both inside & outside

    1. Oh for sure, happiness does come from inside but there are also a lot of outside influences that can certainly contribute or even detract to/from your happiness. That’s just life.
      Maintaining a healthy and happy mindset is a good step forward to stabilise that internal happiness. Thanks too for your thoughts, my friend.

  3. Such a lovely article. happiness is something which is losing its existence due to our busy schedules, work problems, personal problems and what not… We often forgot:

    Life is nothing,
    But a dead soul
    Captured in a moving body
    A mere meaningless existence.
    Without that one little smile
    That holds the power
    To win over everything it touches.

    We should smile too often and find ways that can add to our happiness. Thanks for the share. :)

    1. That is simply beautiful, Richa – what a magical share from you.
      There’s a lot to be said for putting on a happy face as it’s usually contagious so you then end up being happy.

      Is that your own creation of words?

  4. This is such a great inspirational post and I have learn so many things about everyone’s life. Being happy is easy if we just face our problems and just be yourself all the time.

    1. Thanks for your visit and comment.
      For a lot of people, being happy is actually a challenging area to live in, if you ask me.
      Do you find it easy to face your own problems?

  5. Sadly, clinical depression is our age`s disease and negative thinking is to blame. Having been feeling down in the dumps myself lately, I appreciate your article. I guess it`s time I made a change …

    1. Thank you for visiting and taking the time to comment too, Simona.
      It’s certainly true that negative thoughts and expression tend to permeate our conversations which all lead to more negativity in other aspects of our busy lives.
      So when are you going to make a change again?

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