Don’t Wait. Do Something Positive!
Do both of you want the same things in life?
Marriages and relationships are never perfect.
But sometimes, couples run into problems they can’t resolve.
In Australia, for example, 49,917 divorces were granted in 2012, with a divorce rate of 2.2 for every 1,000 residents.
If you have a significant other, you owe it to each other to be on the lookout for potential problems so you can fix them.
Don’t wait for your relationship to completely fall apart before taking action.
Here are some signs to look out for.
You have constant fights about the same things.
Fights between couples, whether married or not, are to be expected.
But if you keep on having fights about the same things, and your fights never seem to get anywhere, then there’s cause for concern.
- Do you hate it when he flirts with other girls, but he doesn’t see the problem?
- Or do you find the way she condescendingly talks to servers infuriating?
Most of the time, problems can be talked out, but if you can’t reach a common ground, this can lead to feelings of resentment.
You’ll start to focus on the negative parts of each other and your fights will become bigger and bigger, until you avoid each other and either separate or hate each other in silence.
You fight over your family members or children.
Sometimes, fights can be about things that can be changed like leaving laundry around the house or how money is being spent.
Other times, fights can be about things that aren’t easily changed, like your family or children.
Fights like these indicate that there are core problems in your relationship.
Do both of you want the same things in life? Are you trying to go in the same direction or are you starting to split apart?
If you can’t come to an understanding about your spouse’s mother-in-law or whether you want children in the future, then you need to reevaluate if your relationship is still something that’ll make you both happy in the long run.
You rarely talk to each other.
Usually unresolved fights are caused by a loss of communication between two partners.
If you find that you and your significant other are talking less and less about the things that matter, you might be headed for trouble.
Communicating less can lead to fights and misunderstandings, and can leave a lot of room for negative feelings.
Often, negative feelings will be kept and harbored until they’re unbearable.
Being able to share your feelings with each other is important to the health of your relationship.
If you can’t, then you’re on a downhill slope.
You’ve felt distance between you for a while.
If you and your significant other aren’t talking, it’s likely that you feel distant from them.
You might be spending more time with other people, or even having more fun without your partner.
Distance is important at times, because the both of you are still two different people.
However, prolonged feelings of distance can mean deeper issues are brewing and can lead to emotional starvation.
Similar to a lack of communication, feelings of distance can be a breeding ground for resentment, and can easily create a rift in the relationship.
You aren’t sexually intimate or sexual needs aren’t being met.
For couples who are sexually active, you can look for signs of trouble in how you two are intimate with each other.
- Has it been a long time since you’ve been intimate?
- Or do you or your partner have sexual needs that aren’t being met?
Sometimes couples can have different sexual needs and still make compromises.
But if you or your better half don’t care about the other’s desires, feelings of rejection and desperation can easily arise, and can lead to infidelity or even separation.
Problems with sexual intimacy often predict the next red flag for a relationship–infidelity.
If you or your significant other has cheated on one another, then your relationship is already on the rocks.
There can be many reasons, like fulfilling sexual needs, connecting with others, or as an escape, but nearly every time the act causes more problems than it solves.
Cheating doesn’t even have to be physical; being emotionally intimate with another or having a relationship with someone else online are also forms of cheating.
These are signs that the cheating party is already looking outside the relationship for their happiness.
You’ve lost trust in one another.
Relationships are a two-way street; you give and you take.
As a couple, you and your partner are supposed to be working together.
However, if you’ve lost trust in one another, then this is a big sign that your relationship is in dire straits.
Are you jealous all the time?
Does your significant other hate it when you hang out with other people? If you lose trust in each other, not only will you constantly suspect each other, but you’ll also lose the emotional security of being together in the first place.
Relationships are hard to maintain, but given the right care and attention, most problems can be solved or avoided.
On the other hand, it’s also important to be able to see when a relationship is no longer working.
Take note of these signs to give your relationship the best chance of succeeding.
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3 thoughts on “7 Signs of a Relationship in Trouble”
Great Article!!! I have to say that all the problems listed above are something most often found in a long term relationships and there is no couple that had not faced at least one of those problems. I have really struggled and invested so much energy and effort in keeping my ten year long relationship alive and I faced practically all of those problems mentioned. In the end, it’s all up to you. Do you have time and will to invest in your relationship or not..
I’m afraid to say that you are one hundred percent right on almost everything here. And I’m very sad that even though I recognized my relationship was starting to get in trouble, my partner didn’t. And even though I really want to fix it I’m sure he’s given up on me and it will take a miracle for him to decide to stay but I believe in miracles so I’ll keep trying everyday and hopefully he’ll see I still love him and he is worth any every it might take ion order to save us..
Thanks so much for your visit and comment, Pauline.
Does your partner recognise there are problems now?
Has he actually said he’s given up or is this what you think he’s done?
If he is open to talking which I hope he is (some partners are unable to talk about problems unfortunately) then start doing that. Find out his real thoughts, listen without interruption and provide feedback. It takes two to tango so you both must be committed to your mutual success.
The work starts now.