Relationships and Divorce – The Old Cat Box

Who would think that I’d be one day comparing cats and relationships; and what they had to do with arguments and split-ups?

Relationships Are Like Cats And Boxes

Witness the cat and the other box
Don’t be a cat in your relationship

Is the relationship grass ever greener on the other side?


The Arguments Scenario

  • Now arguments are bitter and harsh
  • Everything seems like it’s going to grind to a halt
  • Tempers are frayed by continual arguments
  • The significant other isn’t talking to you
  • They’re avoiding you too
  • …. Hey, look, someone else of the opposite sex is paying me attention
  • …. They seem like a wonderful person … friendly … attentive … and interested
  • …. Is the grass actually greener over there, with them?


A Typical Reality

  • Considering most people are already ‘relationship programmed’, the chances are high that the ‘next’ person you become interested in will have the same personality and behavioral traits as the last one
  • Attraction and desire progress into relationship reality i.e. the initial infatuation wears off
  • You’re now faced with a very similar situation of relationship mismanagement as you were in before
  • … Neat, huh?


The Difference Between The Cat and You?

Cardboard boxes don’t have feelings.

Humans do.

You might think it’s perfectly reasonable to hop out of one supposedly failing relationship and try out the new box (sexual pun unintended) as the cat did but the old box has long gone and moved onto its own greener pastures.

You’ve just screwed your own pooch.


Be Better Than The Cat

reach out and resolve the problem

Unless YOU make a conscious decision to reach out, a resolution will NEVER happen.
So what are you going to do?

OK, let’s skip back to the top scenario again and try something different.

…. Hey, look, someone else of the opposite sex is paying me attention

Time for a mental reframe.

Now, internally, ask your logic brain these questions:

  • Before the harsh arguments, did you love them?
  • Before the current hostilities began, did you see yourself being with them forever?
  • Before the bitter feud, were you happy?

If you answered even Yes to one of those questions … STOP and think about what you were about to do.

With a little tender loving care, attention, and calm conversation, you’ll ride out the current arguments barrage and be back on track, to a happy and fulfilling (mostly) life with someone you do care for and love.

Your alternative is the same crappy situation you’re in now but with someone else’s life you’ll screw up as well.

Essentially flushing all that time, effort, and emotion down the toilet.


Be The Better Cat, OK?

Over To You

Now that we’ve reached the bottom, here’s what you can do next:

  • Have you ever thought about another box before?
  • What do you do to keep focused on resolving an argument?
  • What’s one thing you’d recommend others do, to stop looking at the other box?
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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.