Break-Ups and Bounce Backs
Heartbreak is never easy
You may have had the sweetest, most romantic Valentine’s day of your life together with your sweetheart only to break up a day or two after Cupid’s day.
Some have it worst breaking up before or on the actual day of hearts, igniting a deep-seated hatred of Valentine’s and everything lovey-dovey.
Before you unleash your vengeance on all those–annoyingly–loving couples, remember that it is not their fault you are in this situation.
Heartbreak is never easy, especially on such a pivotal date.
Still, life goes on and sooner or later, you’ll be able to bounce back from your experience having learned something and this time with a better perspective on love and life.
Before bouncing back, there are some things that you can do to help you move on.
Cry Til You’re All Cried Out
When you break up with someone whom you loved very much and even envisioned spending the rest of your life with him or her, you feel like it’s the end of the world.
For those who have never been in love it may sound like an exaggeration but never underestimate the pain of a broken heart. In the beginning you’ll feel like you’re dying.
You won’t want to eat or sleep and even shut yourself in your room.
Heartbreak after all is just like experiencing the loss of your family or loved one–you grieve and cry.
Remember the song “All Cried Out” by the girl band Allure?
If you haven’t heard this song yet, head over to youtube and listen to this very apt melody for break ups.
One thing you should remember is not to try and hold back what you’re feeling.
Cry until you’re no longer capable of squeezing out even one more tear because you’re all cried out.
You may hate crying because you’re a messy crier, but when you give in to the storm of tears, you’ll realize that you feel so much better after letting it all out.
Sing Your Heart Out
Songs are very therapeutic, more so when you can relate to every line in the lyrics.
Belt out to break up songs and heartbroken ones.
Sing songs of what ifs and then moving on.
Who cares if you can’t carry a tune or if you don’t have the best voice in the world? As long as you have an outlet for all those pent up anger and hurt, do so in a non-violent way.
Whenever you’re tempted to scratch your ex’s precious car or puncture his tires, remember that karma is a bitch and bad karma begets bad karma.
You’re better off attracting good karma so you can slowly move on and bounce back with new energy.
Party, Not Drink, Your Sorrows Away
Drowning your sorrows is something every heartbroken person wants to do and although he or she may be entitled to it, I wouldn’t recommend doing it with alcohol.
Drinking yourself to a stupor may allow you to forget your pain for a fortnight, but when you wake up in a stranger’s bed the following day, you’ll have one more regret to live with. More if that one night stand led to an unplanned pregnancy.
So instead of drinking your sorrows away, put on one of your sexy club dresses and dance the night away with your close friends. Having a great time will let you forget about your woes and you still get to go back home sober, sleep tight and wake up refreshed with no hangover to ruin the start of a new day.
It’s okay to show a strong and seemingly indifferent front.
Another reason why partying your sorrow away works?
When Prince William and Kate Middleton broke up, she didn’t show to the public her crying face.
Instead, she partied with her friends and showed him just what he was missing.
It seemed to do the trick.
After a brief separation, they reconciled and their relationship remained solid until their eventual engagement and wedding.
Rediscover “Me”
When you’ve been part of being a couple for so long, “me” often gets lost in the “we”.
When you break up, you realize that you’ve somehow lost that “me” that has always been part of you.
One of the good things that can come after a breakup is time to rediscover that me that you have forgotten and listen to what she wants to be and what would make her happy.
So don’t rush immediately into another relationship after a breakup.
Instead, take time to nurture yourself, your soul and the things that make you as you are.
When you’ve found this love for “me” again, then you just might find that someone who will also love you wholeheartedly, flaws and all.
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Based in San Diego California, Tiffany Matthews is a professional writer with over 5 years of professional writing experience. She also blogs about travel, fashion, and anything under the sun at wordbarista, a group blog that she shares with her good friends. In her free time, she likes to travel, read books, and watch movies.
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