How you can share your deep internal thoughts for a better relationship

A Relationship – A Work In Progress

As most of you all know, I’m ‘big’ into this whole personality profile stuff.

Myers-Briggs profiling is something similar to the old XL Wealth Profile that I’ve done. That test pegs me as a Supporter profile or the equivalent Myers-Briggs profile of ENTP – “Quick, ingenious, stimulating, alert, and outspoken. Resourceful in solving new and challenging problems.

Adept at generating conceptual possibilities and then analyzing them strategically.

Good at reading other people.

Bored by routine, will seldom do the same thing the same way, apt to turn to one new interest after another.”

How do you think and the causes
How do you think and what is the cause on your partner?

So it’s an easy thing for me to be connected to people, within a conversation.

I’m an externally motivated person.


What about an internal person and a relationship

Internal energy or motivated people have a lot going on in their heads which, sometimes (or maybe, often), remains inside.

So the other person in the relationship is missing out on these gold nuggets that stay stored inside the Internal person.

The conversation is stifled or, at least, hampered due to missing information. Resolutions can be lengthy due to protracted internal thinking.

The same goes for decisions.


Work In Progress

Let’s look at this another way then.

I’d suggest a mindset adjustment and it’s a win-win situation as well as a subtle one too.

You’re in a relationship.

Look at that as a pair-bonding experience which it should be anyway.

The reframing mental adjustment is you’ve now joined with a person to become ONE – internalize with that ONE.

Sure, you need to equilibrate that that other person also has your own levels of internal trust, confidence, and advice – that’s what I wrote about in my recent article on ‘When Trust Becomes the Glue for Love’.

This article gives you the guidelines to ‘allow’.


Now Put It Into Practise

You’ll need to simply follow along with me now. A leap of faith. And be conscious of your internal thinking too.

When you start thinking inside your head:

  • Call your partner over
  • Look at them and see they are a part of YOU
  • Tell them you want to internalize WITH them
  • Explain why you want to do this – you want to share, you want their feedback to be a part of your thoughts, you desire your own internal dialogue to involve your partner’s thoughts, you want to grow your relationship with your partner


Your Gain

  • You grow as a person
  • Your relationship steps up to a new level through sharing
  • Your partner’s love for you moves into a ‘WOW’ state as he/she can plainly see you desire them to be a core and integral part of your life


Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion

Nice to see you made it this far so here’s what you can do next:

  • Are you an internal person in a relationship?
  • How do you best communicate with your partner?
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And thanks for reading too – Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

2 thoughts on “Can You Be An Island In A Relationship”
  1. Fascinating comments! I'm an INFJ married to an INFP – we do share about our internal worlds a lot with each other, not so much in large social groups or parties, BUT we share our worlds with the rest of the world by writing erotic romance together, which turns out to be a fun solution!

    1. Fascinating Adriana and welcome to Geek and Jock.

      What a unique way to share yourselves too. Do you find your erotic romance writing also increases your own personal 'togetherness' as well? I'd presume the research would be hugely rewarding with exploring and advancing your own love for each other. Mind sharing some of how you go about that?

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