Martin

the good words are to simply stop contact with her altogether which includes fucking her.
you're just making it harder on yourself. You need to move on and find someone. fucking her stops you doing that.
and […]

basically what you just said ‘hey i really like you. at the moment lets keep it casual as i'm going through a messy divorce. i am ready for the other bit though .. wink..'
job done :)

well there are very strong family ties in PH, the same for most SEAsia countries. Did she go back to the Philippines after it ended?

sorry for the late reply Gary
So how did the date go?
There's a heap of other good material in the blogs at https://thairomances.com/en/blog – go check them out too

Understand there's always a language barrier or difficulty between you and Thailand and that takes time to sort out.
You're not going to know the extent of her attraction for you until you get the 2nd (and more) […]

honestly there is no age difference – it's only 11 years and that difference is nothing in Asian counties.
she's also well past her prime and already has children. I'd dare say she's probably shy and using the […]

well somehow, sometime he needs to grow a backbone.
Until that time he'll be walked over and used as he is now.
I don't think there's going to be much you are going to do, after so many years of being […]

sounds to me that it might be mutual.
in some way you need to verbalise what you're thinking to discover what he's thinking or you'll continue going in circles inside your head.
it's OK to continue your fuckbuddy […]

you're in for some long term relationship pain unless you get your house in order
and by that i mean get this woman OUT of the house.
how the heck do you think you both are going to have any sort of normality with […]

Thailand is certainly one of those bucket list places
try ThaiRomances.Com
umm, no-one is likely to go scouting for women for you :)
Why would you even think about doing that?

I didn't write this article and threesomes aren't for me.
That said, if you and yours are openly doing it then all power to you if it's a mutually rewarding experience. Your partner should not be chatting without […]

you're welcome Mark
Enjoy Thailand when you get to go there

Sounds like the guy has something else going on in his life, making him a little weird.
At the end of the day if his behaviour is not to your liking then simply drop him and find another fuckbuddy or boyfriend – […]

well from what you say you want something more than a fuckbuddy which is nearly always the route for a woman in this situation.
if this arrangement for him is just a fuckbuddy and that's all he's wanting then […]

Really? I'm 59 and my girlfriend of 9 months is 30 – what's the problem if both are happy?
And it's great you're happily married too

Hmm well I've lived in Bangkok for 4 years or so and have never had that thrust upon me.
that's not to say it doesn't happen as you've obviously witnessed firsthand.

But the first mistake was asking for a 2nd […]

How old are you?
you wrote 1 long sentence that makes no sense