Foreplay Is Critical
Up to 75% of women do not reach orgasm during sex.
Most guys have got the whole sex thing figured out pretty good.
I mean how hard could it be right? Insert tab A into slot B and you’re good to go!
Eh, well not so fast there, cowboy…
Some guys forget that foreplay is a crucial step in the process, and it is vital if they want to keep their ladies satisfied.
Studies show that up to 75% of women do not reach orgasm during sex.
This is why foreplay is so important; it may be the only time your partner is able to achieve an orgasm.
However, foreplay can be a little more confusing than the more straightforward act of sexual intercourse.
Take The Cue On What To Do
So how do you figure out if you are doing it right?
While you can find foreplay tips on how to pleasure a woman, the truth is – every woman is different. What works for one may not work for another.
This is why it is important to look for “cues” to see if what you are doing is having the desired effect on your woman.
A sharp intake of breath, sighs, positive body movements; all these things are good signs that what you are doing is “hitting the spot”.
Sometimes Experience Doesn’t Count
If you are a little inexperienced when it comes to sexual foreplay, you may even be a little better off than your “experienced” counterparts.
This is because men that think they know what they are doing tend to just do what has “always” worked, and this could work to some degree, but looking for cues from your partner is much more effective.
Another mistake that men who have things “figured out” make is that they move too quickly.
Just because you know where the clitoris is doesn’t mean you have to skip right to it.
Some men go straight to the “goods”, but, in reality, having a guy play with the button on your jeans and sneak his way into your bra can be a much bigger turn-on than full-on physical stimulation.
Not that you shouldn’t get “there”, just that you should remember to enjoy the journey and not just take the shortcut to the “destination”.
More Buttons To Press Than The Clitoris
On the same note; the clitoris is not the only “button” on a woman.
There are dozens of erogenous zones on the human body and finding out which ones make your lady shudder with delight is part of the fun of being in a sexual relationship.
The most common erogenous zones include:
- the neck and throat
- the small of the back
- inner thighs
- rib cage …. and of course,
- breasts and nipples
Some women can even have a full orgasm just from nipple stimulation, which gives you a great excuse to continue touching her amazing lady lumps.
One thing that you should be careful of, however, is that some women’s nipples can be very sensitive.
Ask If She Squirms
If you see her squirm (and not in a good way) it may be a good idea to ask her if it feels good or not.
The same thing goes for clitoral stimulation.
Too hard and it might hurt and too soft and it might just be frustrating for her.
This is why it is important to go with the “hints” her body gives you.
This may seem a little awkward, as some people don’t talk much during sex.
It is better to have good communication (whether verbally or through body language) so that you both can be happy.
Speak Your Mind About Foreplay, With Your Opinion
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8 thoughts on “Everything You Wanted to Know About Foreplay But Were Too Pigheaded to Ask”
When she initiates the action, make an extra effort to please her sexually and to let her know how much you approve. Tell her you loved her initiation. Sometimes women wonder if you’re going to perceive initiation as negative or if it might make you uncomfortable.
True that foreplay is a vital role in having sex. Men should be more patient to their partners and women don’t naturally get horny and stuff. We should take note that sex is a very emotional thing for women. So if we pay more attention to their needs and turn offs ,we can achieve a better sexual experience with our partners :)
Why don’t you think women get naturally horny, Brian?
Granted that each gender warms up to the actual penetration part of sex differently and that’s just OK. I’m more interested in better understanding why you might think female don’t get horny though – is that your experience?
That's all ok guys but come on and be fair and give us a hand – If you want the foreplay after "I do" then PLEASE help us with the rest of life – I balance working full time, cooking, cleaning, shopping, family and all the rest that comes with "I do" – if my husband said to me just one night a week or month even I'll cook (and wash up!) you go up have a bath and prepare yourself I would love it – and I'd make sure he loved it too. If you want us to be sex goddesses then take some of the strain – if you want it to be equal in the bedroom then make it equal in the rest of the rooms in the home. You say the one with the pussy has the power but that's just not how we think – if you want our hands around your cocks then help us create the time – my dream foreplay would be my husband stop watching tv in the evening and stand with me wiping up talking to me and occasionally kissing and cuddling me. We are not robots something has to give and too often it's the sex life – if you want us to be the girlfriends we once were then join in with us – don't say "why don't you leave it till tomorrow and come with me cos that just doesn't help – tomorrow I am already juggling 30 balls in the air trust me adding another ball isn't a turn on!
Hey, thanks for the visit and the comment, Art Jo
Interestingly, the article was written by a woman.
Personally, I share many tasks and chores with my wife, Pam. As an example, I peeled, chopped, cooked and mashed tonight's vegetables. Pour the wine. Chat together while we prepare dinner and while eating. We help each other out in many tasks, though we also have various ones we're better at doing ourselves. My point is, a relationship should be a shared experience and that includes the sexual side of things.
Your tone suggests you look at sex as something that you're almost holding as a weapon against your partner. Maybe I'm wrong there but that's what it sounds like. Further, it also sounds as if there's more discussion to be had with your man around balancing out things at home.
My recent post Why Sex Toys Are Great for Relationships
I thought I'd share a few of the comments the blog post got from Google+
Male 1: wait.. they are supposed to enjoy it too?
Male 2: I remember foreplay, that happened before "I do"
Male 3: Gotta agree with Male 2, as it seems it doesn't go the other way after those two words…
Seems the feeling is that 'the one with the pussy' believes she has the power to call the shots when it comes to sex. Furthermore, they become a spectator instead of an active participant. That's a big shame when both should be enjoying the fruits and mutual excitement lovemaking 'should' bring to a relationship.
So the question really is, should this post be more about 'Why Women Should Get Back To Basics With Foreplay'?
Post is probably a good one for those guys who are clueless and uneducated in pleasing a lady and there is a lot of them around who really are only out there to satisfy their own needs.
What this article didn’t really cover is women are equally uneducated when it comes to their man’s pleasure. Sure, a guy can get off inside a brown paper bag, I know. From my experience in chatting with my girlfriends, they needed to understand that their men all wanted to experience pleasure, fantasy, mystic and forbidden fruits with the lady they are with. That included really wanting their ladies to desire and love the c*ck in foreplay and act like lustful sl*t during sex. It’s in the moment role play and both parties will freaking love it.
I’ve read a few articles on here about trust and giving and a truly uninhibited couple know their lovemaking experiences are all about trust and giving.
Thanks for another frank and honest comment, SexBait.
This is what I'd call 'Football Sex'. Women subconsciously know they have the desired pussy that their guys need. Obviously this can also lead to a power thing too. What can often happen in football sex is the lady becomes a spectator while the guy is the active player. Sure he's getting sexual release however the eventual evolution becomes the game gets boring.
So, yeah, you've hit the nail on the head with the comment and kinda cool you've taken the step with your girlfriends to give them insights from your own experiences that they need to be far more mindful, active and giving when it comes to both desire, foreplay and mutual sexual fulfillment with their partners.
Controversial comment indeed. Anyone else care to chime in?