My second ex-wife got a random message from a guy she’s never met on Facebook and her immediate response to the message was ‘What an idiot’.

You can see the message below – I’ve blurred identifying the guy, for the sake of a little privacy.


Is this Facebook Dating?

Does this really look like the way you’d like to be contacted, for some potential Facebook dating relationship?

It’s an interesting message to read and my analysis of it is that it will certainly gain the guy quite a lot of attention from a number of ladies … and here’s why I think that.

this is the facebook message we are talking about


The Common Facebook Dating Steps Being Used

Firstly, there’s no reference to specific names in the message, besides his own.

I’d suggest that’s primarily due to the fact he’s blasted the same message out to any and all women that he’s trolled in Facebook.

Omitting any names allows him to ensure he doesn’t make a mistake in using the wrong name as well as making it very fast to send out hundreds (if not thousands) of the same message.

He’s using an affectionate title such as ‘Angel’ – and typically, the ladies love cute ‘pet’ names and Angel is one of these as well as one that holds a woman in high regard. Following this up is a biblical verse – something I’d probably never have thought of however it’s likely to appeal to a certain cross-section of women, I’m sure.

Follow this up with a plea for help, couched in such a way that the recipient is this ‘angel’ and only she can uplift the guy in an almost spiritual and holy way – and he’s willing to do anything to achieve this.

Willing to relocate for you, the right woman.

All girls love the thought of being swept off their feet by their White Knight and this fellow pops this little chestnut in there as well.

And this White Knight is also going to watch over you – another girl thing where they’ll feel perfectly safe.

Top all this off with the piece de resistance of a nickname like perfectloverxx and the list of lady buzz phrases is complete.

OK, the analysis of this short Facebook Dating message is complete.

As I said in the beginning, my wife thought this was crap, useless and the guy’s an idiot.

Using Facebook for this is likely to get this guy an enormous number of responses he can work on.

  • 500 million worldwide users
  • conservatively maybe 200 million women
  • say 10% of these would be in his likely 30 – 40-year-old target audience bracket
  • so that’s a target of around 20 million ladies
  • Now even if only half of 1 percentage get caught up by all this, he’s looking at a hit rate response number of around 100,000 women plugging into his Facebook Inbox.

Staggering numbers really.

It’s certainly nothing like I’ve done in the past before I discovered my soulmate on Facebook however I can’t really see how this guy can go wrong when you look at the numbers.


Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion

Nice to see you made it to the end of the post. Here’s what you can do next:

  • Is this a winner or a loser of an idea to be trying?
  • Had any of these messages yourself?

Express your thoughts, in the comments below.

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.