get true love early for lasting happiness

Want to know a secret to discovering true love?

What’s just one thing you’d love to exchange in your life and why?

I’ll give you a hint that it might concern true love :)

* Note: There’s a map revealed to you further down the article so stay tuned.

What’s done is done, I know, BUT often time, that very reflection can be good for the soul.

And it can be good to enhance what’s to come in life.

This relationship tips post is certainly not about you living in the past.

You need to be ‘present’, as well as being aware of mistakes or bad choices that you can learn from, to be a better person, for yourself and your loved ones.

So what is it that I’d like to change and now make better?


Finding My True Love Earlier

I hope this will actually become a lesson for younger people.

I know myself, when I was a young bloke (Aussie for ‘guy’, for those overseas – you now know some slang. Use it wisely) that love was a different love to what I feel and know now.

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You’re not looking for perfection
you do need to find the right qualities (for you)

Young people have a lack of experience to fall back on, when first dating.

They’re basing their youthful love on a thin layer of common interests.

This is vastly different to older people.


Here’s a Great Analogy For Experienced Love

Think of buying your first house, as an analogy. You’ve got a lack of experience of what you like. You’re going to be basing your purchase decision on what you know.

First house will have the basic necessities. But what happens when it comes time to go hunting for a second home?
You’ll have an understanding where you want power points, the layout of rooms, preferred colour scheme, where the sun rises in relation to bedrooms and so much more.

The same applies for love. And you can get that dating ‘edge’ with a few insights. You’ll discover true love earlier and have happiness longer – that’s pretty damn cool, don’t you think?


The Love Baselines

You’ve done a shopping list for a meal before, right?

Ok, we’re going shopping for love and need to get a list of ingredients.

In a nutshell, we’re going to make two lists.


  • What it is we do want in a loving partner
  • Define the characteristics of those people that have hurt you – Character markers for you to avoid


The True Love List

I’m going to presume you (the reader) have already had a few dates and relationships but if you haven’t, that’s OK too. Starting with a clean slate will be a cool advantage.

You can use a list or a mindmap, whatever you find easiest in putting down your thoughts (when I was dating, I preferred using a mindmap).

The important part is clearly identifying the foundational makeup of what you’re looking for in a person – when you’re next looking for a dating partner, you’ll have a clearer definition on the qualities you want.

I’ve done this myself and it actually works. Start with the holistic basics, from which we’ll develop from. These were mine but you can certainly modify them or use them:

  • Physical
  • Mental
  • Sexual
  • Spiritual
  • Emotional
  • Likes


Expand Time – Start Drilling and Get Real

For each of the foundational bases, we now need to drill down and expand as to what defines that ‘topic’ and represents what it means to you, for a perfect and loving significant other.

Let’s start by choosing ‘Physical’ and give some examples of what I mean:

  • Physical
    • Body Shape
    • Body Type
    • Hair
    • Age


The trick here is to start drilling into these areas as well.

You’re starting to consciously retune you brain, retune your ‘soulmate’ radar so you start seeing people that fall into your desired criteria and stop leaving things to chance.


Study and Modify Through Experience

So here’s one I did, on my travels to discovering, meeting and marrying Pam.

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Using this technique will bring you amazing results – believe and achieve


I’ve minimised some areas, for our own privacy. I think you’ll get the point though. If you’re still unsure, please do post a question in the Forums or in the comments below and we’ll get you going.

Remember though, this is a dynamic love list.

I was pragmatic with mine. There’s going to be experiences that aren’t congruent to your liking. Modify your list or mindmap to take in new experiences. Things get better as your radar gets finely tuned and you’re defining on a granular level i.e. start with broad concepts and get more and more granular.


Willing To Try? Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion

Nice to see you made it to the end of the post. Here’s what you can do next:

  • How have you defined who you want in your life?
  • Do you think this technique can help you?
  • Click one of the Share buttons – your friends can then enjoy this article too.

And thanks for reading too – Let us know your thoughts in the comments.

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
Drop me a message and let’s start there, OK?

Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

10 thoughts on “Find and Discover True Love – Faster and Earlier”
  1. Honestly; I’m a sucker for any sort of system. I’m even a fan of figuring out the mindset behind people who claim to have a system to win Blackjack :P Unlike its gambling counterpart though, the technique mentioned above to discover true love, faster and earlier seems to be firmly based in logic and would serve anyone who employed it well. In the absolute worst case scenrio, having a go at fleshing out your own ‘list’ would go a long way to opening your eyes as to what it is you are truly looking for.

    I love when people think outside the box like this!

    Anita. x

    Ps. Got my Gravitar, Geek! :P

    1. Hey, cool Gravatar, Anita.
      Yeah, working out who I was first and then who I wanted in my life, from that point on was a bit of a head spin for me actually.

      It made sense and then when I used it, it was like WOW! Things just started falling into place, into places they were meant to fall too.

      Magic when you experience it, is all I can say.

  2. I love the your message so much. It make me realize that no need to find perfect love but finding imperfect person that will love you perfectly. No man is an island. We will not live perfectly if we doesn’t feel in love sometimes.

    1. Why thank you, Yola for your kind words.
      Wonderful to hear you gained something from us.

      Have you been having a few challenges yourself in understanding what it is that you need to seek?

  3. This is pretty comprehensive. But it definitely is useful. However, most of the time, people usually rely on their gut feeling. They discover in the end that the partners they ended up with are not exactly the ones that they really wanted before but still, they happen to end up happily together.

    1. So wonderful for your visit and comment, Elena.

      I guess that’s why I wrote this post – more what people can do better to obtain what they deserve instead of leaving things to chance.
      It’s wonderful to see couples in a happy and healthy relationship, even if they were a little mismatched to start with.

      But if you had a method to actually re-tune that love radar so you have a better opportunity of meeting and living with you ideal soulmate, isn’t that worth it?

  4. Well Martin! This seems like a whole mission to find true love! But I was lucky when I had my first (and only, till now) love. We met in class, sat next to each other and it didn’t take more than a year (long huh?) for me to realize that I actually love her :D

    1. Hey Raaj,

      Not sure about a whole mission. It’s more to do with better understanding and gaining a very clear perspective on finding and discovering the RIGHT person who is likely to meet you needs for your soulmate.

      You wouldn’t go out and buy a home without some clear idea on what you want in a home. Same for a car. Same for a job.

      Yet, when it comes to getting a soulmate, we usually take the ‘trial and error’ approach and go through a great many people who don’t fulfill our needs.

      I’ve always propose we need to tune our love radar so we know who it is we want in our lives – get the right person and be happy for longer.

  5. I never tried it before. I thought that true love will come on the right time and it also depends on the person to love someone that can be better. However, this may should test us in order to find the true meaning of love. Thanks for sharing this lovely article in your blog.
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  6. I never did this but this is quite like visualization, which you create a mind image of you ideal pair. However, I consider this a simplier process. This method will certainly help me to maintain focus and clear of what I want.


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