Giving does serve your own needs.
In Africa they use the word Ubuntu.
Ubuntu is a beautiful word meaning: I am because you are.
Ubuntu stands for living a life of service.
Desmond Tutu and Nelson Mandela live their lives in the principles of Ubuntu.
“God has given us two hands, one to receive with and the other to give with.”
Could it be the same?
When you open your hands to give something to someone, it is exactly the same movement as when you open your hand to receive a gift from someone.
When we open ourselves up to give to others we are also open to receiving.
When we don’t want to give or share, we close ourselves and are not able to receive from others.
You can see that in our body language: folded arms, body turned away.
In order to give or receive you need to open your hands; when you hold on to things you close your hands, they turn into fists, and we know what that stands for.
Being open to receiving and giving means not just sharing with others; it means that you feel part of that community or group, family, friends, or colleagues.
Being open doesn’t just mean receiving gifts; it also means receiving love, attention, care, and communication, and everything else you need in life.
Receiving and taking is not the same
Receiving and taking are two totally different things; when you hold on to something because you feel it belongs to you, you close yourself off.
You stop flowing; you stop receiving because you are holding on.
Nothing flows between you and the other person. When that happens we feel disconnected, lonely, not part of a bigger group.
It is what Mother Teresa calls ‘poverty of the heart’. Let go.
Lose ballast and you enrich your life.
What can you let go of?
By letting go you open yourself up to receive.