Unless You Do Something About It!

You’re never going to attract your ideal partner and here’s why.

Let’s check out the reasons:

  • You’re stuck in your own importance
  • You’re closed-minded
  • You only ‘think you know’ how to communicate with the opposite sex
  • You’ve got secrets that you yourself can’t admit to – let alone being able to willingly share them with an up-and-coming ideal soulmate.
  • You’ll give up on something you’ve never tried before – Especially when you get peer pressure from people who are in the same (and limiting) mindset.


I’m going to show you how to be totally successful in attracting (and keeping) your ideal partner …. providing you have the desire to listen and take action on what I’m about to share with you.

Is That a Deal?


Here’s the Secret ‘Love Life’ Sauce

I’ve used this myself and I’ve taught the method to others – and they’ve had success without even realizing what they’ve done.

This isn’t BS – it will work if you take action.


Step One:

Get Out A Big Sheet Of Paper That Will Fit On Your Kitchen Table


Step Two:

Draw A Circle In The Centre

  • From this circle, draw out at least 7 radiating lines and at the end of each, draw an attached circle
  • Inside the main circle, write the words ‘my ideal partner’
  • Inside the other circles, write the following words
    • Sex
    • Emotional
    • Physical
    • Spiritual
    • Mental
    • … keep adding those core (and important) attributes
ideal partner mindmap beginnings

Start off with the core basics – this is a starting point.
Yours should be a little different, depending on your core values


Step Three:

Expand On These Qualities

As an example, let me give you an idea for the Mental one. But these words need to come from you and what you think are ideal, not mine.

  • Mental
    • No Baggage
    • Intelligent
    • Humour
    • Understanding
    • Independent
    • …. you get the idea?
mental aspect of ideal partner expanded

Do you get the idea?
Now expand on all of them to pinpoint who you’re wanting to meet in your life

Ok, now we’ve got the framework, here comes the real challenge step.


Step Four

  • Expand each second-tier bubble/circle out with at least 2 other bubbles/circles i.e. using the above example, Understanding needs to be expanded upon with at least 2 of its own satellite circles. Ask the question, what does Understanding mean to me?
  • Now expand each of those third-tier circles with at least 1 but hopefully more.

This list will then enable your internal brain network to be the focus on who you actually seek. No longer will you wander through the dating darkness, ending up with less than optimal relationships.


Step Five

  • Revise the list as you progress
    • Nothing in life is set in stone
    • People and goals change
    • Experience shape outcomes and desires
  • Be OK in better understanding yourself
  • If you find an area really isn’t that important to you, cross it off
  • If dating experience slaps you in the face and shows you you’ve forgotten something on your list, go ahead and add to it and expand on it


Step Six


Over To You

Now that we’ve reached the bottom, here’s what you can do next:

  • Did you or do you tend to ‘find that someone’ without a real idea (randomness)?
  • Do you know your own inner values?
  • Do you make lists for any other things, that help you in life?
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And thanks for reading too – I’ll see you in the comments.

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
Drop me a message and let’s start there, OK?

Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.