How To Be Thankful for Your Partner
In his book “The Hidden Messages In Water,” Dr. Masaru Emoto presented a controversial study.
Dr. Masaru claimed that frozen crystals of water formed beautiful, symmetrical patterns when exposed to loving energy. Conversely, these crystals became fragmented and malformed when subjected to negative stimuli and harsh words.
According to these experiments, arguably the most beautiful crystals were formed by water that had been exposed to the words “love” and “gratitude.”
From a scientific standpoint, Dr. Masaru’s studies have been validated by some and debunked by others.
However, the resounding message sent by his theories certainly holds merit on a philosophical level (particularly when you consider that the human body is 60% water).
It’s The Gratitude
Simply put, gratitude is a beautiful thing.
It’s easy to take your partner for granted. When you have a hard day at work, they’re usually the first person to try to cheer you up and (unfortunately) the first person you snap at when you’re short on patience.
Nerves are frayed by the daily grind of rushing to the job, the gym, and whatever other activities we try to squeeze into neat little blocks on our calendars.
It’s all too easy to think of your significant other as just one more box to check off on your to-do list.
See what I just called your partner?
Your significant other.
Not your insignificant other.
So, how can you be sure that your partner knows just how much he or she means to you? It’s a lot simpler than you think.
Here are just a few ways to be thankful for the special person in your life:
Remember: The Best Things In Life Are Free
You don’t have to drop a chunk of change on season tickets or blow an entire pay-check on a piece of jewellery to show your partner how thankful you are for them.
Make use of (virtually) free technology to send your partner a quick “I love you” text or email while you’re away from each other.
This unexpected gesture will let your partner know you’re thinking of them and looking forward to seeing them when they come home.
Recognize That Everyone Has Different Ways Of Showing Love
Everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated.
Some people are better at demonstrating – or receiving – affection than others.
It doesn’t mean your significant other loves you any less if he or she isn’t showering you with kisses or composing Shakespearean sonnets in your honour.
Rather than focusing on grand gestures, appreciate the little moments like sharing the couch together or drinking coffee across from each other at the kitchen table.
Embrace Those Differences
You know that old cliché about opposites attracting?
Clichés exist for a reason since they’re often rooted in truth.
Be grateful for how different you and your partner may be.
It would be boring to come home to a carbon copy of yourself. Your partner may love to play devil’s advocate to get a rise out of you, or monopolise the television with football when you’d rather watch a horror movie or romantic comedy.
Take them up on an offer to do something out of your comfort zone, or use that time to do something on your own. You’ll be thankful that your partner got you to try something new you may not have otherwise done, or gave you the chance to enjoying a little “me time.”
Ultimately, the little differences between you and your partner will give you something new to share with each other – as a conversation or a shared experience – at the end of the day.
Talk To Each Other
Remember when you first started dating your significant other?
You couldn’t get enough of them.
You’d talk for hours about nothing.
You cared about each other’s thoughts on everything from politics to people who spit their gum on the sidewalk. Fast forward years later and sometimes it’s easy to feel like everything your partner says sounds like a broken record.
Stop thinking like that and reignite an interest in what your partner has to say.
Listen when they tell you about their day – even when it seems like they’re complaining more than explaining.
Know that they will do the same for you.
What he or she has to say means just as much now as it did during the early days of your courtship. Be grateful for every exchange you and your partner share. Not everyone is fortunate enough to have someone in their life who will listen and offer their support on a daily basis.
On the flip-side, not everyone has someone they can share their good times with, either.
It’s certainly something to be thankful for.
Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion
Nice to see you made it this far so here’s what you can do next:
- Do you think of your previous partners as roadkill or as a bump in the journey?
- What’s one thing you’re grateful for, from a previous ‘ex’?
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12 thoughts on “How To Be Thankful for Your Partner”
There is no doubt that we should embrace those differences. They make our
relationship more exciting. We just need to learn how to take turns and respect what makes our better half happy. Kudos! Reading this makes me love my darling more. :)
I got to say that this is an amazing blog. It made me appreciate my husband more after reading this. I realized that it is indeed a neccessity to show our partners our deepest gratitude of having them. In this way, we can keep them for life. I totallly agree that the best things in life are free, so we should maximize those. I believe that my previous relationships were not really bumps on my road, they happened for a purpose. And that, I believe, is to make me see my husband’s greater qualities. What do you think? Thanks for this wonderful blog!
Well, here’s my thoughts Veronica and thank you for posing the question too.
It’s isn’t so much that you get to keep them for life – I think it’s more that they’ll decide they want to be with you. That’s the ‘no ownership’ perspective I have.
Recognising your sweetheart’s qualities, good and less than good, is all part of the mix and the learning to be a better person.
What’s one of those qualities that you now better understand, Veronica, that you didn’t before?
This post definitely got me teary-eyed. After being in one relationship to another in the past few years, I realized that it’s not the time spent together but how it was spent together. At the end of the day, if someone in the relationship starts to fall back or takes the other one for granted, you’re as good as done. Thank you for sharing your perspective on the matter.
Way cool you got value from Stephanie’s post, Joy.
Though I gotta say that you’re sounding ruthless if a partner falls a little behind then you’re basically going to cut their head off and dump them :)
Is that really a true impression I just got?
Excellent post, Stephanie. This is so true that every person has his own way of showing is love, some through words and some with silence. Thats the basis of every relationship. Thanks for this great share.
Partnership is all about complementing each other that is why one person complements the other’s shortcomings or differences. We should cherish our partners in every way.Great share.
So true, Fatima, though it tends to be the opposite of what we should do, don’t you think?
What’s your own opinion of why that is?
What a lovely post!! Sometimes loving is not enough, we need to acknowledge the presence of that someone special in our life. Saying a thanks to him or her for being in our life and making it amazing is a noble idea. Many individuals face difficulty in expressing their love for their partners, but at least they can come up with a thanks to make them feel nice. Thanks for disseminating this great thought, I am surely going to apply it.
Yeah Aanya, expressing Gratitude is a powerful thing in life. Both to yourself and to others.
What do you think is a reason why people have trouble expressing love though?
A valuable reminder – I am going to send a text message to my husband right now))
To be honest, I make this terrible mistake too – I take my significant other for granted. One of the biggest mistakes is to wait for holidays and special occasions to show our love and care. There is no right time to show that you care. The right time to love is now.
Steph might be too busy giving thanks to her own partner so I’ll pipe in, Julia :)
You know, I think we all tend to make this mistake and take our loving partner and friend for granted, don’t you think?
Have you sent another text to your hubby since this one you mentioned?