Yvonne, I can see this is going around in circles. From the outside looking in, I still feel he's very much at fault in not taking responsibility for his own actions. To me, he's got you dangling from a puppet string and continues to toy with your emotions, in a very controlling way.
You need to remove this leverage he has over you.
What you can do is honestly say to him that it might not work but is he willing to try, yes or no. If yes, sit down together and make out a list of all the things that your relationship has going for it – crystallize the positives so you can work on the things that need working on.
Get the foundational stuff out in the open.
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