A great article Martin with food for thought on so many levels.
The word which springs to mind is “commitment”
It takes TOTAL commitment to be in the space you speak of, which I totally agree with.
For me I see it as a journey of expansion with a deeper evolvement of pure love, again which I call unconditional love.
We are all male/female within our psyche and so I also see “pairing” relationships as an opportunity to become whole with any/all aspects people may find irritating. It is so easy to blame another for how we feel rather than look within ourselves to identify the core pattern of attraction.
Equally, for the person within the “paired” relationship, it is so comforting to trust their mate totally in committing to communicating what is at the core of any emotions that may occur.
Thanks for sharing innate wisdom, I appreciate you.