AnonymousUserParticipantNovember 26, 2011 at 8:29 amPost count: 19
I have not been in love for over 10 years and I have not said “I love you” to any guy for over a decade.
Yes, I know, it's a long time.
I'm in my 30's and I forgot how it feels to be in love or even to be romantically in love with someone.
So here's the situation for me at the moment: I've been with my current boyfriend for 6 months. Early in the relationship, I told him (just one time) that I think I was “falling in love with him”.
He had no reaction and did not respond back. I was a little embarrassed and since then, never mentioned the word “love” again to him.
He one time said he cared about me, but I think he is hesitant to use the word “love”.
Perhaps he's isn't ready?
I take the word “love” very seriously and I don't use it or say it very often in my life because when I say it, I really really mean it. My boyfriend isn't an emotional guy and doesn't like to get all soppy about things.
But I want to know how he feels about me. I think we both have been putting off saying “I love you” to each other for some reason or another. Perhaps because if I say “I love you” too soon, I might feel rejected if he doesn't feel the same or doesn't respond back.
How many weeks, months, years did you say “I love you” to your ‘significant other'?
MartinKeymasterNovember 27, 2011 at 8:00 amPost count: 250
Hi and thanks for posting your question.
The short answer is: When you feel like it is the right time, in your heart.
This situation is different for all couples and circumstances. Now, both parties involved need to feel comfortable enough with each other. Each reaches this point at a different time so someone is always going to be the first.
Don't expect your significant other to say it just because you said it – they simply might not be ready yet. That's the time to express yourself and shut up. Assume he doesn't just yet, keep enjoying each other, avoid freaking him out by trying to get him to say it and let him do so in his own time.
Forcing anyone to do or say something is being pushy and insensitive to the other person's advancement and growth. When it is said, that will be your ‘release moment' when things really get interesting.
Let me know if any of this requires elaborating on or if you've got more questions. We're here to help you.
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