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Divorce Is Harsh and Real

harsh reality of divorce
Do you really need this divorce trauma?

Life has many harsh realities and one of this is divorce.

For romantics at heart who wish for their happily ever after, the D-word is a nightmare that they hope won’t happen to them.

So what leads to divorce and what can be done to avoid it?

Heart Over Mind

There are some people who claim that they prefer to adopt a “mind over heart” attitude when it comes to love and relationships.

At first, it seems like a simple principle to follow until they fall head over heels–hard–in love and logic just flies out the window.

Even the most logical person in the world can do a 180-degree turn and embrace a “heart over mind” mantra just because he or she become so blinded by love. When you’re high on emotions, there is this tendency for you to become blind to the truth about the person you have fallen in love with.

In fact, when you’re drunk on the newness of love, it can lead you to plunge into impulsive decisions like a quickie wedding in Vegas.

Once the lovey-dovey haze has lifted and the newlywed vibe has faded, you realize that eloping might not have been the best idea after all.

And this is why more often than not, people who rush into marriage end up becoming part of the growing divorce statistics.


Is it Love or Infatuation?

Some people are only in love with the idea of being in love.

Swept away by giddy feelings brought about by the first flush of young love, they jump headlong into a relationship, sometimes rushing into a lifetime commitment like marriage.

Yes, we like to romanticize the very moment that we fell in love, but what happens when reality crashes in on your fantasies of your ideal mate?

When you realize you want out, it’s not as easy as leaving an ordinary relationship.

Because you are now legally bound as husband and wife.

Dissolving your union will be complicated by legalities that need to be sorted out.

You might even have to avail of prepaid legal plans to help you through the process of divorcing.

do you know the difference between love and infatuation
Love and Infatuation
which should you aim for?


You Can’t Rush Love

Many are excited to find that lifetime partner, that soul mate you want to be with till death do you part. But don’t be in a rush to fall in love.

I think the song by The Supremes perfectly describes the truth that “You Can’t Hurry Love.”

I need love, love to ease my mind,

I need to find, find someone to call mine,

But mama said you can’t hurry love,

No you just have to wait,

She said love don’t come easy,

It’s a game of give and take.

You can’t hurry love,

No, you just have to wait,

You gotta trust, give it time,

No matter how long it takes;

Love is something that sometimes develops over time and grows between a couple over the years they are together.

It’s about bringing out the best in each other and helping one another to change for the better.

It’s not being blind to other’s faults, but knowing them and accepting them as part of that imperfect self that you love.


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Based in San Diego California, Tiffany Matthews is a professional writer with over 5 years of professional writing experience. She also blogs about travel, fashion, and anything under the sun at word baristas, a group blog that she shares with her good friends. In her free time, she likes to travel, read books, and watch movies.

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4 thoughts on “The Road to the Divorce: Avoiding Detours That Lead to the D-Word”
  1. Divorce is a sad thing, but it’s a reality that we all must face and accept should they happen to us, personally, or to anyone we know and care about. Take the time to get to know your partner before rushing in marriage, is a good point to consider. Be in a relationship with open eyes and an open heart. Nobody is perfect. If you can’t accept this simple fact, then don’t be in a relationship at all as you are just bound to get disappointed all the time.

    1. Divorce is indeed a sad reality. I have attended some weddings wherein guests actually discuss the marriage not lasting. I think that one shouldn’t get married unless he or she is fully prepared to work hard to make it last.

  2. You really can’t hurry love; it takes time to really get to know a person so it’s always best not to rush. Even couples who’ve been together for many years suffer from the risk of getting divorced; what more those who enter marriage without really taking the time to get to know each other first? Though there is no hard and fast rule about the length of time one should “get to know each other”, it pays not to rush things and think things over before getting married, lest it would end up eventually in divorce.

    1. I completely agree that love is something that you can’t rush. You need to get to know your partner well before you can even consider getting married. Although there is no minimum of maximum number of years that you need to know someone before you can marry him or her, I think the relationship you have at present pretty much reflects what it would be like after marriage.

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