The Ultimate Balancing Act: Time with Friends and Girlfriend
If you don’t already know this, I’ll let you in on a little dating secret.
Figuring out how to spend time with both your girlfriend and buddies is one of the most challenging aspects of a relationship.
And let me tell you, it is a much more delicate situation than you may think; mishandling it could have major repercussions.
Blow off your girlfriend one to many times and you’ll be single.
Likewise, if you are forever ditching your buddies, they won’t stick around either.
While it may seem like your head is going to explode at time, there are a few simple things you can do to make the situation easier. All it takes is a little respect and time management.
If you truly care about the people in your life – and hopefully you do have such feelings for both your buddies and your girlfriend – then they deserve your undivided attention.
Here is what you do:
Get Your Calendar Out…
It may feel extremely nerdy to plan your social time, but that is what you have got to do.
As long as you’ve known them, your friends have been able to call you up and make plans at the last second. Now, there is someone else vying for your attention.
You can’t just drop what you are doing and rush to the nearest beer bash.
Likewise, as your relationship gets more serious, your girlfriend will come to expect you to spend all your free time with her.
Therefore, it is essential to plan ahead. Schedule time with each party – your girlfriend and your friends. This will help you make the most of your time.
A word of warning, make sure you focus on the person you are with. If you choose to spend the evening with your buddies, fine. But don’t spend the entire time hiding in the bathroom, talking to your woman on the phone.
If your girlfriend wants you to cuddle and watch a movie, don’t get texts from your friends with score updates of the game you’re missing.
Don’t Mess with Sacred Stuff
You must acknowledge that some events are sacred.
Blowing them off is not an option.
For example, you are going to spend New Years Eve with your girlfriend. End of discussion. It doesn’t matter if your buddies score tickets on the 50-yardline for a bowl game.
You will be there to kiss your girlfriend at midnight.
When it comes time for the annual fishing trip or fantasy baseball draft with the guys, you had better be there.
No matter what your girlfriend thinks you should be doing, you can’t blow off your buddies.
Let Her Tag Along
This may seem like a disaster waiting to happen, but hear me out.
The next time you go out with the guys, take your girl with you. I’m telling you, this is a win-win situation.
Your girlfriend will get to know your friends, allowing for some quality girlfriend-friend bonding time.
As an added bonus, your girlfriend can act as a wingwoman for your buddies.
Single girls feel more comfortable joining a group of guys if there is another girl around.
Plus, your girlfriend will get to fulfill all her deepest, darkest desires to play matchmaker.
Host a Party
Again, another perfect opportunity to bring the two camps together.
Your girl will appreciate being on her home turf. She’ll also love showing you off to all her friends. Meanwhile, your friends will be more than willing to come drink free beer while checking out your girlfriend’s single friends.
Follow these tips and you are bound to keep everyone – including yourself – happy.
Keep your expectations reasonable and you’ll be able to hang onto both your girl and your guys.
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15 thoughts on “The Ultimate Balancing Act: Time with Friends and Girlfriend”
This is a bit complicated, but I think one of the best ways to avoid such problems is by having common friends or including your girlfriend or boyfriend in group events. It’s hard but good management is a key to keep both your friends and girlfriend/boyfriend close to you.
I tend to agree with you here, Ciara.
Like all priorities in life, this probably a good time management exercise, isn’t it?
Juggling one area with another to ensure both are kept happy and vibrant.
Is this personal experience talking?
The same idea goes for women! I know it is hard to make time for my girlfriends and my man. However there are some days that you just have to make choices. For example my best friend and his best friend are getting married the same day. While we’d both like to be with each other we have decided to put our friends first and go to separate weddings.
Great ideas. I also think that, the more serious your relationship gets, the more important it is to put things on the schedule that have no official title other than, “Girlfriend day” or “friends day.” Because you might not always know what that last minute plan will be, but you do know you want to carve out a regular time that’s sacred. Plus, then you can still have last minute ideas, and know that you’ll be free.
Great idea! I like this!
I personally think that it will be a lot better f your girlfriend feels included with your circle of friends. It would take some effort but if both parties are willing to do it then everything will be fine. :) Thanks for sharing!
Good point. It sometimes takes awhile for the guys to warm up to the idea. But when they do, it really helps the situation.
If guys would know how to make time for their girlfriends then their time spent with the dudes won’t cause them any problem. The reason why women tend to be jealous over the troops is because they aren’t receiving enough attention. Thanks for sharing this with us!
I love the wing woman idea!
Is that so you can gather more women to talk to or have you got a strong matchmaker within you?
I think I make a good matchmaker! :)
Good one, Kate
We’ll have to get you to write a guest post on how you go about it and the successes you’ve had, with your techniques :)
I wish blog comments had a “like” button like facebook!
Click the Star Rating at the top right of the post, Hugo :)
This one is really complicated, that is why I hang up with my boyfriend’s friends, we have the same set of friends. :)