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True Love Isn’t What It’s Cracked Up To Be, There’s More …

True love might have first appeared to have been love at first sight.

It might even have been after you’ve been dating that guy or gal for a while.


At some point though, you get this voice in your head saying:

Oh wow, I think this might be true love

What are The Signs Of Your True Love?

  • You get a shortness of breath
  • You smile to yourself whenever you see them
  • You’re always getting these urges to just give them a hug.
  • You love touching them
  • You just don’t know what it is but they give you this warm glow inside


True Love Isn’t What You Really Want

Well, all those qualities are freaking great, aren’t they?

Yeah, they are great BUT it’s only a poor beginning to what you really need to be aiming for.


Eternal Love, Baby, Yeah.

true love is often your first love
Never think true love is all there is for you.
There could be much much more

The feeling of love obviously needs a starting point.

And like anything that’s worthy of doing right, there’s also an end goal with lots of ‘middle stuff’ to work out, in getting to the end goal. Right?

Will, that goal we all need to be mindful of AND working towards is Eternal Love.


What’s Eternal Love Then?

While true love starts with two people coming together, for the first time, due to strong feelings of desire, togetherness and friendship … eternal love has other qualities.

You might not know it yet. It’s D E S T I N Y

  • Eternal Love isn’t selfish
  • Eternal Love isn’t materialistic.
  • Eternal Love doesn’t look at physical existence
  • Eternal Love comes when somebody loves selflessly
  • Eternal Love has no expectations from other side
  • Eternal Love doesn’t end, even when one’s dream are unfulfilled
  • Eternal Love is a feeling that is difficult to define – a love that will last forever.
  • No power is stronger. an unbreakable bond between two soul-mates destined for each other.
  • Eternal Love can’t wither or die.
  • Eternal Love is the greatest power to ever exist … endless … never-ending


How Do I Get Eternal Love Then?

To be honest, it’s a journey we’re all on, even my second wife, Pamela Allen and myself.

It’s a destination worth buying your ticket to.

eternal love is a different destination
Try a different outlook and journey to eternal love.
It’ll be worth the drive

You’re going to hit air pockets and turbulence, that’s a given.

With the above dot-points in mind, how do you fare with each?

For me, I’m still holding onto historical expectations so that’s certainly needing ongoing work and attention.

I’m sometimes wanting Pam’s company all to myself so there are aspects of selfishness.

I’m only human :)

We’ve always referred to ourselves as ‘The Chosen Ones’ and maintain that thought always.

Martin J Cooney 2012 – Live the belief and give it attention and focus.


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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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13 thoughts on “True Love Isn’t What It’s Cracked Up To Be”
  1. That was a brilliant little video, Martin. Whoever created it is certain to have brought a smile to his lady’s face! I loved all the little statistics and in an era where divorce rates are through the roof, it is warming to know that some people still believe in eternal love! :)

  2. I want to extend a note of thanks to you, for defining the thin line present between true love and eternal love. I think it just depends upon the couple to turn their true love into an eternal love. Love is indeed something each of us is searching for, but finding the soulmate is a cumbersome exercise.

    1. Thank you for your visit and comment, Aayna – beautiful name too.

      It’s funny though that some couples never even get to experience love – they’re essentially 2 friends who happen to live together. And then taking it to a new level and purpose is so completely foreign.

      What do you think about reframing that word ‘cumbersome’ to be ‘a fun filled experience’ though? Do you really feel the journey is cumbersome?

  3. Sometimes we just don’t realize that our love is actually true for that person. We start caring for that person as if we’ve been together since years….we give them advice for everything…just as a couple should do. If all this is true love ….then be it :)

    1. Hey Raaj, thanks for your comment and coming back for a visit too.

      Oh I understand you might be with your true love and not know it but what are your thoughts in understanding that they are? Are you suggesting that if you’re giving them advice for years that they could be or maybe they’re just a good friend?

  4. I also think that a person’s maturity and life experiences are key factors in finding eternal love. I have experienced finding true love but sadly it did not last because we were not mature enough to take care of the relationship. But now that I am older, wiser and less temperamental I have found my eternal love.

    1. I’ve got one word to say to you, Reese, and that’s YIPPEE!!!!!

      Way cool you got it going. And I totally agree that it is a maturity thing and you need to be mindful that you’re tending the relationship garden and sowing the right seeds. You’ll never know that until you’ve had some heartache and successes.

      But I’m now really interested in hearing when or how did you know that your partner ‘was the one’?

  5. I can confidently say that I’ve found eternal love. Oh yeah!

    Before Saverio, it was constant struggle, pain, selfishness, ego…It was worry and jealousy and unease. It was also infatuation, neediness, and desperation.

    Now, it’s just love. It’s just us working our way through life together – going through ups and downs, but never feeling like we did with other guys and girls.

    It IS hard to describe, but even though there is some work involved, it feels good and effortless.

    I can say that what you are calling true love, is what led me to eternal love. I learned a lot from my past relationships, and those guys made it so easy to become aware of what love really is. Does that makes sense? lol

    1. Oh, it does make perfect sense, Bellaisa.

      True love and eternal love is a bit like the analogy of war-time parachuting – bear with me here :)

      We all start off at the airport, wondering where our journey will lead us. Will our parachute work and what is the enemy likely to do.

      OK, let’s get in the plane and start. Now some of us will eventually get to the drop zone, bail out of the plane (with faith) and land safely on the ground – we’ve now got to the True Love point.

      What comes next is Eternal Love – we need to find the target and the right target. That’s a longer journey and we need to better understand ‘the enemy’ and exactly where it is we need to get to.

      Does that make sense? :)

  6. It’s quite complicated to distinguish between eternal love and true love. However, this blog post has shed some light on their differences. But I think that finding true love is the first step to finding eternal love. :)

    1. Oh totally agree, Sara.
      Step 1 is certainly finding a true love – you have to start somewhere.

      I thought it was worhthwhile suggesting that that is just the start and there’s more to discover and aim for when it comes to moving towards a soulmate.

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