If babies gave up as adults do, we’d all be still crawling on all fours

We’ve all done both in relationships, I’m sure.

I know I have and, to be honest, the flight is the one I’m most ashamed of.

It’s the easiest one to take and the one we shouldn’t be opting for.

My second wife Pam Allen chooses Flight most often and admits she did so even in her previous marriages.

Which is a shame to be on the recieving end, since any relationship resolution has a habit of going nowhere.

Why do people prefer not to stand up and fight for what is meaningful in a relationship?


Why Not Just Fly When It Gets Too Tough?

The fight-or-flight response (also called the fight-or-flight-or-freeze response, hyper-arousal, or the acute stress response) was first described by Walter Bradford Cannon.

His theory states that animals react to threats with a general discharge of the sympathetic nervous system, priming the animal for fighting or fleeing. This response was later recognised as the first stage of a general adaptation syndrome that regulates stress responses among vertebrates and other organisms.

(via Fight-or-flight response – Wikipedia, the free Encyclopaedia)

What we fear will make us a stronger person as well as our relationships

To flee a confrontation is easy
To stand up for beliefs makes you a stronger person
And helps your growth and your partners growth
Which do you choose?


Relationship Problems Are Easier To Simply Avoid

As humans, when we’re interacting with others and especially when we’re faced with an argument or problem with our partner, we’ve grown up in a society where we often opt for the easy solution.

It’s easier to take flight than to be faced with problem solving, an ongoing and lengthy negative environment: with a very uncertain outcome.

We’re more prone to Flight than we are to Fight.

But did you realise the BEST option is to actually Fight?

Fight for certainty, fight for clarity and fight for harmony and happiness.

You got into this relationship for love, togetherness and eternity – why the heck would you really want to throw in the towel, without a concerted effort?

What About You?

Why do you think adults in relationships have a tendency to just give up, at the first sign of a difficult situation?

Express your thoughts, in the comments below.

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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.