5 Seconds Is All It Takes
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Did we get the top important aspects to a relationship right?
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Shared values. Without shared values, honesty, communication and even love become meaningless.
Wonderful to have you visit us and plonk in a comment, Simeon.
It's a bit of a paradox I think too. Without one, you might not have any of the other values. Without trust and good communication, is it possible that all the shared values in world would be irrelevant?
Why do you think shared values are a higher priority in making a relationship work tha, say, trust? I'm interested in your opinion from an education and growing point of view (this certainly isn't me saying I'm more right or wrong than anyone else).
Hope to hear more of your insights.
It is unfortunate that there is not an answer that reads, "All of the above".
To me, I think that they are all important, and necessary in a relationship. But, only able to select one, I chose "communication", as I think that it is the foundation of any relationship. Being able to talk to your partner about anything and everything, making sure that you are both on the same page, etc.
I also agree with the comment above about sex. I have been in relationships where the sex was non-existent and I was empty and resentful. But, I have also been in relationships where sex was constant, and based only on the physical stuff. Neither was good for me. But, I think a healthy medium is best; with love, communication, working together, playing together, growing together, etc to make the relationship an all around, strong, bond.
Thanks so much for stopping by and casting a vote, Will.
I think a lot of people would have seen them all as vital pieces of the relationship puzzle. That said, it's interesting to see that communication and trust are the current 2 high choices too.
Great to also see your comment on sex being important. I wonder whether sharing mind blowing sexual adventures with your partner might be achieved through communication or whether this is a failing some other area.
Thoughts?
I think that communication about the intimate parts of your relationship is very important. Knowing how the other person feels about intimacy, what kind(s), to what degree, etc. Also, learning a little bit (not too much) about their past experiences helps as well. Also, communication helps each partner understand, and if willing, grow, when comfortable.
For example, I had a girlfriend once that would refuse to shower together. After a while, I finally asked, we talked about it, and other than being self conscience about her body, she firmly believed that her shower was her only "alone" time. So, I stopped asking (pestering) her about wanting to join her, etc.
Great post.
Micheal
A healthy relationship surrounds around Trust.. If you don't trust your partner then how will you be able to love them or do anything else in a relationship.. trust means everything to me atleast..A relationship without trust is like an empty vessel..
Oooh… another subject close to my heart, Martin!
Communication – hands down – is the most important part of a relationship. Without the ability to communicate with each other, you're just going through the motions of a relationship, without ever delving below the surface and really connecting with your spouse. It is my humble opinion that communication is the key to everything else: a couple who can communicate their thoughts and feelings with one another won't need to be dishonest, therefore trust is built; likewise, in response to the reader who said great sex is the most important, open communication also means being able to convey your sexual needs to your partner, leaving both of you more satisfied.
Fantastic to see there's so much alignment with your thoughts, Jess – you really are well aligned to how we think on the site.
And extra wonderful you've been kind enough to post your thoughts and comments as well. It's been an interesting experiment to see how the poll results are panning out too. As I said, some research a few years ago suggested praise was the most important which I find a little difficult to believe but there you go – you can verbalise stats in so many different ways, I guess.
You really do need to do some guest blogging here too – I'd suggest you'd have a great following.
Well, I think it needs to be a totally fulfilling sex life between the two people, if you ask me.
Without mutual satisfaction, things are going to fall apart. You can have all the trust, love and communication in the world but if you both are unable to satisfy your primal urges, forget the rest.
It's an interesting topic, isn't it.
For me, it's about Trust since I feel it's the very cornerstone and foundation that everything else is built upon.
Though I read some research recently that suggests the most important aspect in a relationship is praising your partner for all the good things they do and have done. I can understand the reasoning however, personally, feel that's further down the line in the rating of importance.
Why do you feel the way you do?