do you feel like garbage after being dumped

Dumped? Time For Action Then

First things first:

If you’ve been dumped then it’s going to hurt like hell for a while and coming to terms with it is just something that has to run its course.

There’s no timeline and no natural conclusion, it just depends on:

  1. how long you were in the relationship for
  2. how able you are to cope without your partner and
  3. how much of a shock was it when you heard those immortal words: ‘it’s not you, it’s me’.

There are plenty of self-help books and online tips and advice on the matter but take it from someone who knows – it’s up to you how you want to get over this thing and anyone who tells you differently is pretty much lying.

All I can offer you is my own personal experience on how I came to terms with a thoroughly messy break-up after a three-year relationship ended leaving me distraught and pretty much alone.

So, if you want to take my advice then great but, if you don’t, then listen to your head rather than your heart and do your best to move on.


Time is a great healer and crying on the couch after eating a box of After Eight mints that you found at the back of the cupboard is just part of the process.


Let It All Out

In a nutshell:

You need to grieve the loss of your partner so just get on and do it.

Cry, sob, weep and wail because the longer and the more passionately you let it out then the more cathartic the process will become.

If you have good friends or family members then burden them with all of your troubles until they’re sick of the sight of you.

Demand that you pull yourself together, which is pretty much exactly what you need to do.


Get Fit

Once you’ve used up all of the Kleenex in the house then it’s time to get yourself back on track and a key way of doing this is to get fit.

Start jogging, join a gym or start cycling to work because all of these things will be more beneficial than starting a crazy fad diet that will only leave you depressed and hungry.

Yes, it’s inside what counts however, if you have a totally fit body on the outside then you’re probably going to start to feel slightly better about yourself.


Have Some Fun

Get out there and start doing the things that you didn’t use to do when you were in a relationship.

Try not to wander down memory lane too much by visiting old stomping grounds – make sure you’re not afraid to try new things or meet new people.

Do something completely different or set yourself a goal that you’d like to achieve which involves having fun and letting your hair down.

Party like it’s 1999 or just go bowling because you can, whatever floats your boat – just do it!


Explore Further Afield

take the plunge and start enjoying life again
Take the plunge and start enjoying life again

Once you’re getting back on your feet and you’ve started to exercise and have fun then it’s time to take the plunge.

Book those last-minute singles holidays that will invariably see you heading off into the wide blue yonder in search of love, peace, and happiness. Organized singles holidays are a great way to do your own thing and meet new people.

Make sure that you’re not running away because you’ll only have to come back and face the music.


Move On

After you’ve finally washed that man or woman out of the year after months of filling your single life with only positive and liberating activities then, my friend, it’s time to move on.

This may mean starting to date again, doing things that you used to associate with your ex or simply feeling happy about yourself for the first time in ages.

Just remember: no one can tell you how you should feel and what you should do however, take it from someone who knows:


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Chris is happily married with two kids but still remembers getting dumped and the pains you need to go through to get over it.

Chris Owen – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

11 thoughts on “What To Do If You Get Dumped”
  1. Thanks for sharing, even though I am a little late on reading this. I think I have gotten over most things now just the comparison of the old with the new but I am taking martins advice and making new guy a habit and to be honest haven’t smiled like that in a long long long long time.

  2. I experienced it before, and I might say it is one of the worst feeling in the world, but time heals all wounds, and just trust God that he is not the right one for you.

  3. Moving on is something that can take hell lot of efforts..The key is just to divert your mind in something productive and never think bad or ill about yourself. With relationships, you can’t force someone to be with you. It is true we invest almost everything we have in a relationship and it does hurt to see it falling apart. But then there are things you can’t control and they are meant to happen. You get memories and lessons, that can help you in future.

    1. You should be in counselling, Richa :)
      Yep, your relationships are indeed an investment. One in the current relationship and an investment in your own growth and experience. One door closes and another one will certainly open.
      With more experience, at least you’ll know the better way to walk through the next doorway.

      1. hahah…to be honest I have counseled many friends..heart breaks are so in fashion these days :P …..i can give advice to everyone, except myself…

        1. Oh I see you’ll need to write a guest post for us, Richa, on “Top 10 Counselling Tips To My Girlfriends And The Outcomes” :)

    1. hahaha have you actually been through a breakup yourself, Gautham?
      it’s usually (initially) quite an emotional experience that’s hard to simply forget.
      How do you handle the situation?

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