You Will Cope!
Divorce is never an easy procedure.
Never be ashamed of a scar. It simply means you were stronger than whatever tried to hurt you.
In fact, the process itself is energy draining and time consuming.
It can affect you emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and physically.
Couples who undergo this process will likely experience different emotion and mental issues.
After the petition for divorce is granted, both parties must now face a new chapter of their lives – on their own.
Not all divorcées can immediately go on and forget the past.
Other people find it hard to move on and live back a normal life especially the women. Maybe not all but most women who have gone through the divorce process suffer from difficulty in moving on. For some, it takes years to heal the wounds from the failed relationship.
Are you one of these women?
If so, here are simple ways to cope with divorce.
Acceptance and Mourning
Never stop yourself from grieving and from feeling sad.
In the first place, you are a human being – meaning you have emotions.
If you feel like crying then pour your heart out.
Do not deprive yourself from feeling whatever you want to feel.
Expressing your emotions will likely help you lessen emotional and mental stress. In contrasts, keeping your emotions might result into complications – health issues.
Many health related problems can be developed due to emotional problems.
If you need someone to talk to, try talking to your family or a very close friend.
This person should be someone you truly trust. This way you are certain that this person is willing to listen and understand you. This person should never judge you nor condemn you.
He/she must be someone you can cry on.
Engage in New Interest
Engage into new hobbies that can fill in your spare time.
This way, you will not have a time to sulk or reminisce about what had happened and what have gone wrong.
Avoid doing the same things that you used to do with your ex-partner especially in the first few months.
After the pain has subsided and you have finally moved on, you may do these activities again.
Explore new interests like art classes or self-defense sessions.
You may tag along with your friends in their yoga session or join charitable works.
There are so many things you can do to keep yourself busy.
Being a divorcée does not imply looking so stressed out and rugged.
As a matter of fact, it is the best time to pamper yourself. Life does not end there so you must take care of yourself.
- Visit a salon
- Have a new haircut
- Get a new hairstyle.
- You may get a body massage
- At the very least have a facial treatment.
- Enroll in a fitness program to keep yourself fit and healthy.
- Go shopping!
- Buy those things that you like.
And the list of things to make you feel beautiful goes on.
The main point is to make yourself presentable to be able to meet new people.
Being presentable does not necessarily mean wearing branded garments.
It simply means you must look like a human being.
Move Out and Look for New Home
Every home holds lots of memories both good and bad.
Staying in a place where there are things to remind you of the past is not advisable after the divorce.
There is a big possibility of recalling those times that both of you still live together, the laughter and the fights – which might just depress you.
It is highly recommended to move out from the house you and your ex-partner have bought.
There are two options you can contemplate.
- You may rent for a while either an apartment or condo. There are many units for rent today like those apartments in Atlanta.
- Or, you may consider investing in a brand new home if you have enough budget.
Living in a new environment can help you recover from a divorce easily.
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