How To Survive a Thai Woman On the 1st Date :)

Western men are assumed to be more romantic than Thai guys

Imagine you are about to go on a date with a beautiful Thai woman.

You met her online and you exchanged a couple of messages.

A lot of girls were interested in meeting you, but there’s something about her that motivated you to meet her before all the other girls.

Thinking about her beautiful profile pictures makes you nervous.

Remembering what she said about her attitude towards relationships, marriage and family makes you smile.

You don’t know if she’s the one, but you are sure that she is more than just girlfriend material.

You want to get to know her.

She wants it too.

You are going to meet her in one hour at Siam Paragon in Bangkok.

The only problem is that you are so nervous that you can’t even button your shirt.

You want to make everything right and leave a good impression.

But you don’t know how.

That’s exactly why I decided to share the following 10 survival tips for your first date with a Thai woman with you.

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Study the Thai Culture Before Your First Date

This is extremely important.

The Thai culture is very different than any Western culture, especially when it comes to dating.

I promise you that the dating etiquette you enjoy back home is pretty different than what awaits you in Thailand.

There are certain things that are completely normal in the West that have the potential to freak out a Thai girl.

You want to know what these things are, believe me.

You don’t want to freak her out because you thought that it’s cute to touch her hair.

It might sound weird, but touching her hair in public will make her extremely uncomfortable.

Don't touch the hair!

Don’t touch the hair!


Don’t Meet Her in the “Farang Uniform”

“What’s the Farang Uniform?” you ask.

The Farang Uniform consists of two pieces of clothes, the tank top and the short trousers.

About 95% of Western men in Thailand walk around like that. But that doesn’t mean that you have to copy their style.

This style can easily mean the end of your date, especially when you are dating a high society girl in Bangkok.

You are in a metropolitan city and not in a holiday resort.

It’s time to dress appropriately.


Greet Her in the Traditional Way

Thai people don’t shake hands like we do it in the West.

They have their own greeting, the wai. In case you’ve never heard of this greeting, you can find out more about it here.

What do people in the West do when they meet for a date?

We hug each other or we give each other a kiss on the cheek.

If you do this with a Thai girl, especially when she has never been on a date with a foreigner, she will be very confused.

It’s better to respect the local customs and to greet her the traditional way.


Don’t Take Her to an Expensive Restaurant

You want to date a Thai woman who loves you and not your wallet, right?

Then set the right tone from the beginning.

Let her know that you really want to get to know her and that you are not one of these guys who are looking for a girl they can sponsor.

The best way to do this is by taking her for a romantic walk in the park, instead of going to an expensive restaurant.


Avoid Eating With Chopsticks

In case it’s raining and a walk in the park would be a horrible disaster, you can of course take her to a normal café, bar or restaurant.

Just don’t try to impress her with your non-existent chopstick skills.

Only use them if you can actually eat with them.

You don’t want to show her that you eat like a five-year-old child by throwing your noodles left and right on the table.


Ask Her Questions about the Thai Culture

The easiest and most fun way to connect with a Thai woman is by asking her questions about the Thai culture.

This shows that you are interested in getting to know her and her country.

Unfortunately, many foreigners don’t give a damn about the Thai culture.

She doesn’t want to date such a guy.

Making her comfortable around you will be a lot easier when she knows that you are a man who is interested in finding out more about her culture.

The beauty of Thai culture

The beauty of Thai culture


Give Her Compliments

It’s always difficult to say if giving women compliments works to your benefit or if it makes you appear needy, especially when you are dating women in the West.

You don’t have to worry about this when you meet traditional Thai women.

One reason why Thai women prefer to date Western men is because they assume that they are more romantic than Thai guys.

I honestly don’t know if we are more romantic, but that’s what a lot of girls believe.

In other words, give her as many compliments as you want.

I promise you that she will smile and giggle. She’ll love it when you say “Khun suay maak” (you are very beautiful) to her.


Respect If She Can’t Come Back to Your Place

I know what you want to do at the end of the date.

You want to invite her to your place and “watch a movie”.

This can work, at least sometimes. But in case you are dating a really traditional Thai girl, she might not be able to go back to your place because her parents are very strict.

This doesn’t usually happen when you are dating a girl in your home country, but it can happen when you are dating a girl in Thailand.

And it can happen quite often.

Don’t let this discourage you.

Just schedule your next date a bit earlier and you won’t have to deal with this problem anymore.


Don’t Even Think About Kissing Her in Public

What do you usually do at the end of a date, no matter if you take her home or if you say goodbye at the bus stop?

You go for the kiss.

Yep, that’s what you normally do, but it’s not what you should do when you are in Thailand. Thai people don’t show affection in public.

Kissing a woman in a public environment is a no go.

Don’t even think about going for the kiss unless you are in a private environment.

Wait until you are back at your place, even if you have to wait for the second date.


Plan Your Second Date

Even though kissing in public is a clear no go, she wants to know if you are interested in her or not. Let her know.

Tell her that you want to see her again.

Just because her parents are so strict that she won’t go back to your place doesn’t mean that you can’t set up your second date.

If she likes you, she’ll agree to meet you the next day.

This time she will come back to your place.


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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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