Dating Online Safety: Don’t End Up with More than You Bargained For
As busy as people are today, it only makes sense to turn to the computer in order to meet new people.
Unfortunately, no dating site performs background checks on its members.
While a site can ask hundreds of questions, there’s no way of guaranteeing that someone is providing truthful answers.
If you’re thinking of looking deep inside your computer for your one true love, do it safely.
1. Protect Your Identity
Studies have shown that Americans spend millions on online dating services each year.
If you are going to count yourself among these people, experts suggest that you protect your identity.
Don’t share any information that would make it easy for someone to find you.
You may even want to go so far as to create a new, free email account to use for your dating profiles.
It may seem paranoid, but savvy computer operators can easily find you with just a tidbit of personal information.
2. Look for Lies
If you start communicating with someone that you meet on a dating site regularly, pay close attention to what they tell you.
People who lie often have difficulty staying consistent over time.
For example, if that hot new guy tells you that his mother is dead and two months later mentions having dinner with his mother, run.
Pay attention to what you’re being told and look for inconsistencies in stories.
3. Look for Warning Signs
Psychotic people can only act normal for so long.
Unless you want to meet Norman Bates face-to-face, keep an eye out for warning signs.
If someone won’t answer your questions, is elusive about their own personal information while trying to get you to talk about your own, uses excessive foul language for no reason, disrespects you or seems to be perpetually cranky, look for someone else.
4. Keep it Public
It doesn’t matter if you speak to someone for three days or three years; the first time you meet should be in a public place.
Look for somewhere that is well-lit, has tons of people milling about and is mutually convenient.
Cafes, malls and busy restaurants all make ideal meeting places. Never meet someone in a park unless you want to take the risk of getting dragged into the trees.
Avoid bars, never meet at someone’s home and always drive separately.
5. Keep Your Clothes On
You don’t want an STD. That’s a pretty simple statement, but it’s a true one.
You don’t want your first online date to keep you popping pills for a month or to stick with you for the rest of your life.
No matter how hot, nice, sweet, sexy or smart someone is, keep your clothes on until you get to know them better.
Until you are comfortable enough to talk about STDs with that person, you shouldn’t be considering getting frisky.
It Can Be Safe – Just Be Aware, OK?
Dating online isn’t necessarily dangerous in and of itself.
What makes it dangerous is losing your head and behaving in ways that you wouldn’t otherwise. If you are planning on meeting the parent of your future children online, you’ve got to do it with some common sense.
Follow the tips above and you’ll not only have a great time, but you’ll come out of your date with your health and life intact.
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6 thoughts on “Dating Online Safety: Don’t End Up with More than You Bargained For”
Well,everybody should be aware of this kind of dating.As we all know we are all strangers at the first place. Be safe on all those things especially when meeting unknown person in private place. You should be aware of this because as of this time, there are a lot of crazy people.
Amen to that, Anne.
Got any crazy date experiences you can share? :)
Well, funny you should mention on line dating b/c the mail I get and they
have not seen me is crazy! They soley are just going on my profile. Some of them themselves have brief summary that seem long but interesting. I am currently not ready to date but wanted to take a peak
into the dating world. It seem scary at times. i agree about meeting in a public place well lit. I would do the second and third date meet in a public place that could also be the movies. I would like to drive in separate cars for the first few dates. i would also let a few people know where I am going to meet and the person name. And if I am not back within reasonable time, call my cell with some kind of code so I can let you know i am ok. I know all this seem a little crazy but when my daughter was dating and as a single parent I had to be safe. I would take the tag number and warn the guy about having her back on time. I have no time for a creep to hurt my daughter b/c then i would go crazy. Too many times things happen to people. Most of us just don’t get lost for the hell of it! shit happens. Besides hopefully he will understand at the beginning. So you still think I am crazy? I called it heighten awareness safety. haha
Crazy? no way – there’s creeps galore out there, Janis :)
When I was dating and proposing to meetup, the first thing I suggested was they pick the public place that suited them best as I wanted to ensure they felt safe and comfortable.
Mind you, it was surprising the number that suggested we go back to their place afterwards – weird and I never took them up on that offer on a first date. We’ll be interested in your future dating exploits though, Janis :)
Very interesting article. Online dating can be dangerous but as long as you are cautious, you could easily make the most out of it. Always be prepared and always makes sure you get to know the person a bit before you meet. Cheers.
Too true, Dan
I remember when I was dating, I always made the first date in a very public place that was chosen by the lady I was meeting. Important that everybody feels safe, especially the woman.
And then have FUN!