what men really want

The Real Truth Might Shock You!

A common misconception when it comes to men in relationships is that they’re never serious and that they’ll jump ship at the drop of a hat.

This is not true at all as such assumptions are born from women’s lack of understanding about what men want in a relationship.

The commitment may be something that most people think is what scares men away, but it’s not due to pure aversion from it but what it entails, along with the woman’s expectations.

what men really want
What men REALLY want. Believe and achieve.

If you wish to understand more about what most men want out of a relationship, then here are some of the major things to remember.

They’re not that hard to understand at all once you do get it as they are simple concepts that are just common amongst men who wish to find their other halves.



No matter what gender you are, honesty is a sought-after quality.

As a woman desires a man who speaks and acts upon only truth, the same can be said with what men want. There is no need to dance around a man’s questions as he would most likely want it straight and true, like an arrow shot towards a bull’s eye.

A man doesn’t usually respond to hints very well, so if you want something from him, then ask him for it openly and without hesitation. Trying to drop hints and hoping that he picks up on them can just lead to disaster.

A real man responds best to straightforward communication, without anger or negative connotations.



independence in a woman is actually wonderful
Independence isn’t a world-destroying issue. Men actually love it, in a woman

If there’s one thing that turns a lot of men off is an overly needy woman.

While it may feel nice to be needed, having it to the extreme only serves to be both annoying and tiring.

A confident and self-sufficient woman is attractive, albeit a bit intimidating to some.

But those who do dare to court such women are rewarded with care, understanding, and capability.

Such women exude not arrogance, but genuine confidence in themselves and how they carry each situation with a calm demeanor, which is very attractive to men.


Not Manipulative

Perhaps there are some women out there who think that they can sway a man’s judgment through subterfuge, and perhaps it has worked a few times before.

However, once he picks up on it, then he’ll most likely drop you like a bad habit almost immediately.

As mentioned above, honesty is something that men appreciate, and a manipulative woman is anything but.


Sexual Connection

satisfying sex is … satisying
satisfying sex is, well, satisfying for EVERYONE!

This is a topic worth discussing.

As much as women want this, men obviously share the same affinity for satisfying sex.

This can only be achieved through proper communication and openness to each other so that you know each other’s desires and act upon giving to match the taking.

Pleasure in lovemaking can only be realized when there is love, passion, and enthusiasm for each other. Remember that as much as you want it, so does he.


Sense of Humor

It’s not just about being funny, but also being able to take a joke and laugh in even the direr of circumstances.

This relieves tension and makes sure that both of you enjoy your relationship with laughter and an uplifting spirit.

A woman who can be spontaneous when spending time with her man is a good thing indeed as not only will you enjoy each other’s company, but you’ll want to spend more time together and the relationship won’t get boring fast.


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Elizabeth Davis has 20 years of experience as a relationship adviser. She writes and shares more relationship tips and marriage advice on her blog.

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14 thoughts on “The Truth About What Men Want from Women in a Relationship”
  1. You are responsible for your own happiness. If women more actively sought this truth they wouldn’t be trying to have their men fill this void. Exit the clingy, manipulating, sad, dependent girl…

    1. Thank you for the visit and comment, Eva
      Personally, I believe if you’re in a relationship with another person, you’re responsible for your own happiness as well as a duty of care in making the other person happy, as well.
      If not, then what’s the point? You might as well just remain a single person.

  2. There is no doubt about it men have needs to. However they are really not that complicated. Mostly we want to be valued and respected, two very high values that go way back in time to primitive man. We still today want to be the protector provider and we have the need to know that we are fulfilling those needs to the woman we love. This article is full of information on how any woman can do that.

    1. Thanks for the visit and first time comment, Jeff – a big welcome to you.
      While they don’t appear all that complicated to a guy, the confusion comes into play when a woman tries to understand them and remember they’re trying to work out what guys want from a perspective that’s totally different to their own thinking.
      Does that make sense?

  3. This may also be an eye opener to both men and women. But it would also be great to at least share each others’ prospective to ensure that both of you understand each other.

    1. Welcome Ernestus and good food for thought too.
      I usually say that each person in a relationship views their world in a differend way that another isn’t easily able to understand. With that said, sharing their thoughts can be hindered by our past and our current thoughts.
      How do you share your own perspective of things with your partner?

      1. I didn’t realize that I spelled perspective wrongly. hahaha… oh well!

        I share my perspectives on a motivating way as not to empower my partner’s conviction. It is also better to be a motivator rather than a manipulator in relationship.

        1. Spelling isn’t a requirement, Ernestus :) We value your thoughts and comments far more so all good, my friend.
          Love how you spell out motivation over manipulation too – true words indeed. Thank you for being a part of our community.

  4. Men want their independence but they do not really like a very independent woman. I have never figured out what exactly they expect. A very interesting share indeed.

    1. I’ll let you in a little secret, Fatima. Men want security in actively knowing their lady wants and desires them – that’s their security which obviously differs to a woman’s.
      Everyone should be independent as well as dependable – men and women both. Men really aren’t looking for a subservient women but one with confidence, in herself.
      Now what do you think?

  5. This is such an honest post. I agree with each and every point you have mentioned in this post. Men are men, and they can never change, particularly when it comes to commitment. It is always difficult for such men to remain happy in one relationship, as they believe in flying from one relationship to another. I just pray that I get at least a single man, who can love me with an honest heart. Thanks for the share.

  6. This is a good analysis Elizabeth. As i am a man, i can say that this is really true. some men have commitment issues regardless of the woman they date, but other men just want to commit but the woman herself does not make the right actions that encourage her man and motivates him to commit.

    1. Welcome back Ali – always great to hear your thoughts.
      What do you think the ‘right actions’ a woman needs to give off to a guy so he knows and she encourages?

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