End An Argument As Best You Can

I’m wondering is a magic phrase when you’re in a tough argument and needing to discover stuff from your partner.

Hey, you know the night when you said …., I’m wondering what that aren’t meant?

I’ve really only just recently discovered a few alternate ways in getting better results, for us both, when in a frustrating debate (I’ll call it a debate, for now :)) with my sweetheart.

 

When you’re frustrated in an argument

I admit it – I’d be a challenging person to live with. Not because I want everything my own way – quite the opposite.

I want to please and I want to know things about my wife. Feelings, her inner thoughts and thoughts she has about me.

Because we both think and communicate very differently, there is sometimes friction when a misunderstanding or misinterpretation comes along.

Trying to avoid an argument

There's always an argument cure – If you try

I handle it one way and my wife Pam Papier handles it another.

One thing leads to another, we both think we’re probably right, things get a bit heated (or just plain cold) and before you know it, there’s frustration and internal anger.

 

Why Does It Go That Way?

When a relationship is good, it’s usually really good.
Do you know what the next part is?

We all travel through life as individuals.

We develop our minds with only ourselves as the priority. People who we come into contact with are outside our initial concern. By that I mean, we look to ourselves as the only ones we really need to satisfy.

But what happens when a significant other comes along?

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Normality No More

Oh my Goodness!

Now I suddenly have to think of another person. And that person is really someone I care for, more…

The real challenge is to be able to share what was once ours alone and share that with another, unreservedly.

The biggest hurdle to really get past next is arguing.

Life is view each others historical perspectives and the initial presumption is to win the argument and present a case to the opponent that you’re also right in what you say.

 

No Longer A Loving Place To Be

Even arguing should be done within a loving environment and it rarely is.

Arguing usually opens up an abundance of unintentional negative emotions, swaying the loving normality over to the dark side. It’s innocuous and subtle.

And that’s where a healthy habit of …

 

I Was Wondering …

… comes in.

 

  • The non-confrontational nature of the enquiry helps defuse the issue at hand.
  • It’s calming to both sides.
  • It promotes discussion instead of rage or anger or further conflict.
  • The loving returns.

 

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Enjoying newly found freedoms, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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