Trust Goes Both Ways
Being trusted is the greatest compliment to a person.
But what if this trust is broken?
We may not always break people’s trust intentionally.
Sometimes one mistake from us is enough to sow the seeds of distrust, even when there are more reasons available to trust us.
Readers of this post, we’re sure are here because they wish to stick to people they love and wish to regain lost trust. It’s difficult, it can be exhausting mentally as well as physically, but if it’s for people we love, the effort is worth making.
The core of connection to any relationship is trust.
But, there’s always moments when we give in to unreasonable temptations.
Maybe you’ve got caught flirting, caught lying to your boss or parents and ditched your best friend, stolen something and so on.
The list could be endless.
We all have situations and times that cost us all that we put into building relationships with the people we love so much.
If you are willing to hang in there and make every possible effort to rebuild your relationship, here are a few tips that can be helpful.
Admit Your Mistakes
There is no turning back if you are not willing to admit your mistakes to yourself and to the people who have been hurt because of your actions.
What breaks most people’s trust is not that we did something unacceptable (we all commit mistakes), but because we tried to hide it, and got caught.
The only way to regain their trust is by being honest about the misdeeds you’ve committed and giving them your side of the story
Dishonoring someone’s faith can be as heartbreaking for people who are hurt, as it is for the culprit.
It’s never easy to mend hearts, sometimes it’s like a wound on the skin, even when healed, it leaves behind an ugly scar.
Well, we hope the problem isn’t that serious, and if it is, be patient with yourself.
Change your habits if needed, mend your ways of doing things, and revert back to your old self that was loved and trusted. In most cases it is change in circumstances that lead us into breaking people’s trust.
You flirted with you colleague in front of your wife maybe because you were drunk and too happy to receive attention from another women.
You stole your friend’s fancy lunch box at school because your parents couldn’t afford it.
It’s all a foul play of changed circumstances.
In order to understand the amount of pain you’ve caused to your loved ones, you’ll need to step inside their shoes.
Be understanding and validate your loved one’s pain, by extending them your empathy.
Agree with how they feel and try to tell them openly that as much as they are hurt, so are you for breaking their heart.
Don’t just tell them you feel their pain, try and share it – be partners with them.
We’re all good at sensing how genuine people’s emotions for us are.
If there is any pretense our heart won’t give it acceptance.
Sincerely assure them that you’ll rectify your mistakes and not repeat them again.
Honor Your Commitment
Maybe in the first place trust was broken because you didn’t honor your commitments, but relationships are full of commitments on a daily basis.
Take up the smaller ones first, and make sure to live through them every day for as long as it takes. Small things, small gestures, honoring small commitments can make a big difference in showing to the other person your willingness to makes efforts.
Remember the first time you tired to establish strong and lasting relationships with people; it took time, patience, pursuance and honoring commitments even if it meant going out of the way.
Repeat this again!
You may get one step closer to fixing what’s broken.
Make People Feel Secure
Loosing people’s trust also means they no longer feel safe in your company.
In the beginning, they may not trust being with you, at home or outside. This will be the hardest test to pass – to pursue them to stay with you, and give you a chance.
Lucky if you get the chance. Make the most of this opportunity, go back to being the old you, make people secured and safe in your company.
When in their company do things they like, in fact get together as often as possible.
Cook with them, watch movies, take a break from the mundane routine.
Give yourself and them a change – plan a holiday, celebrate festivals together.
Do whatever it takes to stay together.
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