Get real with what it is that you do want in life and a partner

Funny the interesting conversations you can have when out driving.

My wife and I were out and about and chatting about different people as well as their various relationships.

its easier to buy a house than a partner
We put more effort into choosing a home than a to get a lover

When Pamela mentioned a few unattached people that were actually looking for ‘someone in their life’, I suggested that for most people, it was actually far easier to find the ideal residential home than it was to find a partner.


Why Is This?

Think about it for a sec.

You won’t get anyone successful as you’ve failed to determine what makes up ‘successful’ in your head.

When you’re in the market for a home, what do you do?

You actually write out a pretty comprehensive list of wants and don’t-wants. You’re going to be in that home for a long while and you definitely want to make sure it fulfills your requirements.

Be it close to public transport, shops, local clubs, whatever.

Your buying radar is suddenly alerted and reacts whenever you’re reading the paper about housing, driving around, and seeing a For Sale sign – you know the drill.


So What About A Life Partner?

So you’re unattached and, like most people, would love to have someone in your life that you can deeply love and be deeply loved.

How do we find that person?

Mostly by pure accident, visiting all the wrong places, and winding updating people who you’ve dated before (in character or behavior).

Even to the point of ending up in a relationship where they treat you like previous partners.


What’s Wrong With This Picture?

There are very few people who treat finding their ideal lover/partner in the same way as buying a home.

If you have no real idea of who you want, how do you expect your ‘lover radar’ to get switched on and alert?

Sure you might have it in your head that you want someone who’s successful and good looking and, for the most part, that’s about as far as anyone gets.

Really vague and undefined.

And all you’ll end up getting is the same as in your past, for the most part. You won’t get anyone successful as you’ve failed to determine what makes up ‘successful’ in your head.

You won’t get ‘good looking’ as you’ve failed to tabulate your own viewpoint and criteria of ‘good looking’ – your real thoughts could be widely different from your friends’ views.


Now It’s Your Turn:

Do you find you meet the same type of people who you’d rather not?

Any tips on meeting the right people?

Agree or disagree with this post?

Want to know more in clarifying who you want to meet?


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5 thoughts on “Buying Real Estate Can Be Easier Than To Get A Lover”
  1. I wanted to say a huge Thank You, I am lucky enough to work with "The Geek" who taught me the key to finding the man of my dreams. As you explained to me many months ago if you can mind map the characteristics of the perfect partner it will help you to become crystal clear on the type of person you want to be part of your life. This takes the concept of maifesting the right people into your life to a more specific level.

    I started with key features like Ethics, Family, Fun, Humour, Drive, Physical etc and then from that I drilled down even further; for example under Ethics I put: Work, Life, Beliefs, Family, Non Smoking etc. Under Drive I put: Ambition, Positivity & Belief in the Power of Positive Thinking. So as you can imagine it becomes a really big list.

    At first I thought this was taking my perfect partner list a bit too far but as an exercise with a few girlfriends over a glass of wine one night we sat down and did our perfect partner mind map. I then put it in a draw and pulled it out periodically to look at it.

    That was now 4 months ago and just this morning whilst rummaging in my draw, I found my hand written mind map. I have been dating an amazing man for the past 3 ish months and had completely forgotten about this list. I read through my 'wish list' and was blown away to see that my new boyfriend has ever single characteristic in abundance.

    Needless to say I am sold on this now and urge anyone to give this a go. It's fun, it can't hurt you to try it and you might be just as surprised as I was by the outcome.

    So all I can say is Thank You!

    1. It's realigning your own internal radar so you actually start 'knowing' what it is you want in that other 'special' person.

      A huge congrats – you're now on an even extra special journey, Paula. Sharing another's life and love holds it's own challenges as well as huge rewards to make you whole, with purpose. Personally, thw wine makes all the difference :)

  2. I'm not a great dater. Never have been. Never will be. It's not the quantity, it's the quality. Whenever Ive really tried to find love it never works out. Whenever I backed off and 'got on with it', in waltzed my husband. 3 dates in 2 weeks and we were engaged. It was a great love of my life, and we never really were apart even when he was hospital. Married less than year he was diagnosed with a rare bone marrow disorder. He fought. He fought a long courageous battle. Eventually he lost the war dying in my arms after 13 years of marriage. That was almost 10 years ago. As I said, I'm really not a serial dater, but in 10 years I've had a few and 2 long term relationships. After the last one I got real clear on the mate shopping list, and then settled into single life believing that it would happen with him appearing on my radar. And finally it has. I do believe you attract the quality of the love that you deserve into your life, in all areas. Love, friends, professionally. Where do you find it … all places when you're not looking. A friend of mine found it when the son of her neighbour came knocking on her front door. It's not about a location, it's about knowing what you are looking for and being open to receiving it. I think.

    1. What an absolutely wonderful story, Laynie and thanks for the sharing – It's bound to give inspiration to others.

      The article is actually my own true story, much like yours. I first marriage was one I fell into, like a lot of other people who meet through one reason or another and end up taking the easy option, with what's available at the time. Never really putting much time or effort into determining what it is they really truly want in a partner.

      I did that very thing after my divorce. A few wonderful ladies appeared and then, WHAM!, Pammi came into my life and the rest is history. Honestly, she's my soulmate. I know this with all my heart and I'm truly blessed and humbled by the entire experience. I hope others can be inspired in some way to discover the way to attracting their life's love by putting in the effort that journey deserves.

      And thank you for commenting too – sharing really is caring.

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