Deception is Everywhere

You can’t tell the intentions of a lot of people.

When you’re dating or getting into a relationship, there’s usually agendas within you and the person you’re dating.

They are obvious, in most cases, if you’re the type of person who wears your heart on your sleeve.

They aren’t going to be that way if the person is an internal thinker, introvert or, in the worst of cases, have sociopathic tendencies and are habitual liars. Or all of these.

Agendas will be impossible to see, except to those with the guts (and the willingness) to actually look outside their current belief.


Habitual Liars

The best lies contain half truths.

It’s sad to think there are actually people in the world like this.

They are masters of diversion and manipulation.

Think back to all those News Stories where a serial killer or master con-artist was finally brought to justice. Their friends and families speak glowingly of how sweet and innocent they’ve always been and wouldn’t harm a fly.

Sociopaths (women and men) are the latter con-artist variety.

Sweet and innocent on the outside.

Habitually corrupt on the inside and most of them believe their own lies which makes them all the more believable, to family and friends.

sociopaths are master liars

Got the guts to find out yourself?


The Top Five Signs?

Sociopaths Feel No Shame, Guilt Or Remorse.

Unfortunately, their minds are wired this way.

I mentioned earlier about wearing your heart on your sleeve.

If that’s you, then you make the perfect target for a sociopath as they see you as easy to control, manipulate, harm and betray.

Without a second thought!

These people are master liars in inventing any explanation to justify her actions and move the focus away from them and projected to another.



You Won’t Find a Sociopath Apologising Unless It Serves Her Purpose

This is especially true in a relationship with a sociopath.

Without possessing the ability of true guilt, they will always be right.

Being shown proof of their deceptions will bring forth a barrage of attacks and subtle diversions as opposed to a normal person’s reaction of sitting down to problem solve, an understanding for both parties and actively seeking a positive resolution.

Sociopaths don’t do the ‘normal’ way unless it serves their agenda.

The typical sociopath relationship will be a loose structure of half truths stitched together using out of context ‘facts’ that can weaved together in their lying retorts.


Sociopath Relationships Don’t Last Long

The older a sociopath gets, the longer her list of failed relationships grows.

Sociopaths can’t help themselves, no matter who she is with.

They’ll have left a string of failed relationships in their wake, all with convincing reasons blamed on the other party.

The warning bell sounds when they pass these off as ‘that’s in past so let’s leave it there’ or a similar diversion.

The longer time you share a bed with a sociopath, the more their subterfuge, agendas and fabrications will be revealed.

At some point the relationship will crumble and the sociopath will take no responsibility for the collapse and just move on with their life, furthering their personal agenda of winning at all costs.


Sociopaths Will Attack the Messenger

When you’re in a relationship with a sociopath, a big fat red flag to keep a lookout for, is how they respond with questions about their integrity or behaviour.

When this is done, she will usually fire back and reverse the allegations towards you.

It’s a bit like always being told that you’re always looking for their faults instead of working on your own.

This is a subtle brainwashing tactic, akin to cult groups.

The messenger is disparaged and attacked by the sociopath and her friends and family (who all still can’t see the forest for the real trees) and the messenger is kicked out of their once loving sanctum, allowing the sociopath to continue her journey of fulfilling her agendas.


Sadly, Sociopaths Are Also Incapable of REAL Love

This is by far the most devastating of sociopath traits when it comes to a relationship with them.

Since they are entirely wired to be self-serving, they can only pretend to love so they’re able to focus on getting what they want from their partner.

They don’t FEEL love in the way you and I do, and will divert away from relationship problem solving, as love is foreign to them.

Unless it serves their own purpose, goal setting will be non-existent as a sociopath’s partner isn’t part of her life.


You Probably Already Know a Sociopath

Yep, you probably do, don’t know it and think they’re sweet, charming, loving and are a victim themselves.

  • Do they have short lived relationship failures?
  • Do they cry foul of their partner without drilling down to their own responsibility?
  • Do they avoid continued personal questions?
  • Do they dredge up disparaging so-called ‘truths’ about their partner?
    • These are their truths
  • Are they a continual blamer?
    • i.e someone else is always the cause of relationship failures.
  • Do they have almost a split personality?
    • i.e. they are outwardly loving, yet slides into a hatred mentality towards a someone – who is now probably close to exposing their illness

If you’re a family or friend of someone who actually is a sociopath, you can either accept your own deception or ‘suck it up’ and start asking real questions, to get them help.

Grow some real balls or continue being deceived, your choice!

It will be challenging as she is likely to find your replacement since she is typically self serving.

If you’re dating a sociopath, get the hell outta there!

Right now!

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