First Time Daters

Nobody is perfect, but we all tend to be very judgmental when looking for a long-term love.

I’ve met many first-timers who think that as soon as they start using a dating service to meet a potential partner, the sky will be the limit and suitors will be showing up at their doorstep faster than a racing locomotive.

Unfortunately, this is rarely the case.

Although new daters typically have more dating activity than the folks who have been dating online for awhile, it’s rarely an onslaught of people that will be knocking down your door.

The best thing for you to remember when you begin to look and ultimately find a dating services partner is to keep your expectations low.

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Maintain a balance in expectations


Prepare and Hope

This is a mantra that could come in handy in the dating world.

I have more dating horror stories than I’d care to tell you, but the fact is that dating is not only time-consuming, it can also be annoying and difficult at best.

Think about it: you are meeting random strangers and hoping that sparks will fly and a connection will be made that will last you at the very least throughout the evening and at the very most, perhaps a lifetime.

That’s a very tall order.


Your Expectations

If you keep your expectations low with every date you go on, you will never be disappointed.

Many men and women get their hopes up so high and think they’ve finally found the person of their dreams, only to have those dreams dashed moments later when their dating services partner turns out to be less than perfect.


Nobody is perfect, but we all tend to be very judgmental when looking for a long-term love.

The slightest imperfection could send any guy or gal running.

This point of view isn’t too realistic, so be sure to give yourself a reality check before pursuing the people you meet online.


Perspective and Attitudes

If you change your perspective and change your attitude in terms of your dating life, you may actually learn how to have more fun and feel less disappointment when things don’t work out.

If you date on a regular basis, you know how exhausting it is to think that every time you meet someone new, he or she will be “the one.”

Learn to relax and enjoy the date for what it is—a date. If something comes out of it, that will be a bonus.

In the meantime, live in the moment, enjoy yourself as much as possible while you eat, drink and converse with someone new.


Adapt to Succeed

If you are able to adopt this attitude while you’re dating, you will be certain to have a much more enjoyable time, not to mention the possibility of greater success.

Sometimes it really is all about the journey and not the destination.

So stop looking for a wife, a husband or a long-term lover.

Just enjoy the ride and all the people you will meet along the way.


Have Your Say

What’s been you’re experience?
Do you ‘enjoy the ride’ or take things too seriously?

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Cara Michael is dating expert who frequently contributes her own insights and stories. She is passionate about helping people succeed in relationships.

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