taking it to the next level with your male best friend

The Perks Without Inconvenience

Be careful of the choices you make with your man best friend
Be careful of the choices you make with your man best friend

Having a guy best friend is probably one of the best things a woman could ever have.

It lets you enjoy all the perks, without having to feel a lot of inconvenient emotional hullaballoo.

It is like having a father, brother, mother, sister in one guy.

Male best friends are usually the coolest brothers you will ever have.

  • They will guard you like hounds just to keep you away from unlikely suitors.
  • They can also be stricter than your father.
  • They will be so uptight to even allow you to go out wearing skimpy outfits.

Now isn’t that sweet?

It is.


But not until all these awesomeness hurt.

Once your emotions get muddled up by confusions and questions, the awesome relationship can also potentially turn into a nightmarish one.

And when it does, you just can’t help but think:

‘Will I cross the line? Or will I keep mum about it, for the sake of friendship?’

There are times when the boundaries get all messed up and either one of you will be at the losing end.

Making a decision on whether or not you should do something, even to recognize that confusing feeling is very daunting.

No one ever wants to lose a best friend, if it can be helped.

While it totally works for some couples, it is not always the same with others.

understand the value of your guy best friend
Understand the value of your guy best friend

Here are some of the questions that you might want to ask yourself first before doing any crucial move.


What Do I Really Feel About My Best Friend?

Fine, you are confused.

But being confused is never any clear indication of what it is you actually feel for your best friend.

This confusion may have risen from a misunderstanding you have or had with another guy you are romantically associated with and having your guy best friend around to comfort you gives you the impression that the one for you might be him, your best friend, all along.

Stop and take a step back.

It would be totally unfair to jump into that conclusion.

First of all, you are going through some sensitive issues with your guy and turning to your guy best friend for more than just comfort is being way too inconsiderate and selfish.

Make sure you know well enough that the reasons he is being too caring is all because of the best friend set up you communally acknowledge.

Breaching this line is like wrecking havoc instead of finding inner peace.

There are better chances that your best friend will not appreciate being a replacement.

He definitely knows his worth.

It would spare you tons of disappointment if you would know the worth of your friendship.


Am I ready For Rejection?

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If the world is on your side and your best friend feels the same way for you, then you are one really lucky girl.

You just hit the jackpot.

But that is being safe and ideal.

The stakes are equally high on the other end.

You have got to prepare for the worst-case scenario all the time. In this case, you have to be totally ready to accept rejection.

Guys can be twice more mysterious than girls.

There will be lot of times when you would feel like you are being led on something wonderful.

Be careful about how you tread on that path.

Guys sometimes feel like being extra sweet without really meaning something else.

So if you feel like taking risks and confessing what you feel, go on. You just have to make sure you know the answer to this question.

After all, no one ever wants to deal with rejection.

Use common sense for the best outcome
Use common sense for the best outcome


Am I Ready To Be His Girlfriend?

Being his best entitles you to all his dirty little secrets.

Things are not the same once you become boyfriends and girlfriends.

Being in a romantic relationship is way too complicated.

There will definitely be new rules as you go on living your romantic relationship and it is not always as promising as being in best friend relationships. Your attitude for each other may change and it ultimately poses a threat to the solid foundation you have earned with each other.

The real world is not designed to be ideal.

What he used to be very open with you about might be things he would be so uncomfortable to talk about once you are couples. Do not be surprised about any changes.

Although it is true that some of the relationships that started out in this set up succeeded, they never happened without enduring these setbacks.

It is so easy when things happen as you wish.

But it is devastating when it does not happen that way.

So, are you ready for a change in status?


Am I Ready To Lose The Friendship?

Whether you like it or not, friendship will diminish to a certain extent once you and your bestfriend enters a romantic relationship.

This is the worst pitfall of being in love with someone you are deeply connected with as friends.

Getting into a fight is also a whole new battlefield once you are in a romantic relationship and you better get yourself fully armed before going into it.

What used to be a non-issue may start becoming an issue.

Expectations change and demands get tougher.

Once you are unable to meet the demands and expectations of being in a romantic relationship with your best friend, things will change and it is not always the way you want it to be.

Friends can be lovers, but lovers can not necessarily be friends.

Be careful of the choices you make.


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Elizabeth Davis has 20 years of experience as a relationship adviser. She writes and shares more relationship tips and marriage advice on her blog

Elizabeth Davis – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

3 thoughts on “The Next Level With Your Guy Best Friend: Learn the Cons”
  1. There is no friendship between a man and a woman. Most often, a woman then suffers from such a relationship. If a woman is free, then she is in search of her young man, and always is in some expectations. Starting to communicate with a man, she begins to get used to his presence. A man is so arranged that he is immediately determined what he wants or does not want from a person. Of course, unless he has a hidden intention to have some kind of on-duty relationship or “weekend” relationship.

  2. I always had serious doubts on whether friendship between men and women is even possible. From my own experience, on one of the sides (or both) there’s often some feeling that’s somewhat more than friendship. That’s why the question of whetehr to cross the line or not is rather common. And making a decision is possible only after weighing up all pros and cons.

    1. Yeah, that’s always been a common and confusing situation, Justin and I’m glad you stopped in and voiced it.
      It’s thta ols differences between the sexes and the lack of understanding between the two, as well. And throw up communication difficulty and people playing games as well hahaha
      It’s a wonder anyone gets anywhere these days :)

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