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If you lie, you die!

Want to be a better partner and soul mate?

Fostering the growth of a bond between two people has many pitfalls and far far more rewards and riches.

Follow these simple step-by-step relationship tips and you’ll skyrocket your romance plus much more!.


Plant the Right Seeds

You both are starting a bond between two very different people – that’s what a relationship is … a bond.

Different backgrounds, preferences, and points of view.

You can either actively discuss with your soul mate what is right OR you both can take no action at all – it’s your choice but you need to consider the upside which is why it’s important for you to finish reading this article, in full.

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Cultivate and get more abundance
Grow your relationship like growing a rose

Here are a few areas that are vitally important to talk about and agree upon, with your spouse, partner, boyfriend, or girlfriend:

  • How do you both think i.e. do you think internally before expressing or are you an externally focused person who talks as you think.
  • Agree on no secrets or agendas – use positive psychology
    • You think that’s a no-no in a relationship, wouldn’t you?
      • But it’s surprising just how many people keep a grasp on their past and view their present relationship through ‘historical rose-colored glasses’.
    • The present has nothing at all to do with the past so give it up, for goodness sake.
    • This is all about being transparent
    • You might have had secrets in the past
      • it’s likely you’ll have come unstuck too
    • No secrets lead to never having to lie
      • that’s a good thing and maintains trust.
  • The Taboo of Sex
    • Sexual energy permeates our very being.
      • We were conceived through sexual energy.
    • It brings strength and healing to a relationship.
    • It bonds a couple through the most intimate of sharing
    • There are an abundant amount of non-nonsensical social and religious taboos that confuse most people.
  • Communication.
    • Wow, if any of our Polls are an indication, most people including myself firmly believe that
    • You simply have to be able to talk about anything and everything, despite how painful you think it might initially be.
    • Refer to The Taboo of Sex above.

Water Regularly

Without water, plants wither and die.

Relationships are the same.

They’re made up of actions, emotions, and goals – jointly as well as individually.

We all need to look within ourselves, to find how we’re able to be a participant instead of just sitting on the sidelines.

Water, Prune and Grow!

As a personal example, my love for my own soul mate was unquestioned. I love her with all my heart and soul, every part of my being is madly in love with her.

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Some things happen for a reason
Some things are a wake-up call

But that’s from my point of view.

In the initial stages of our marriage, I was so consumed with my own thoughts and belief of my love for her, I slipped up on actually demonstrating it. Of course, this led to arguments … and a broken heart or three, along the way.

So I took some of my own relationship advice and started to ….


Pull Out the Weeds

You’ll end up with some broken romance, in every relationship.

Every relationship will experience the inevitable stresses and strains of partnered life, and each couple will choose their own way to address them.

There is a simple exercise that echoes the qualities of gentleness and compassion; and that emulates the complementary relationship of yin and yang – female and male energies.

Many couples have used it to help them understand and harmonize with each other.

Each partner takes a turn listening to what is upsetting his or her soul mate and then repeats what was said. This refocuses us away from our hurt and toward understanding the pain of our partner. It also allows us to know that our partner has heard what is painful for us.

Most of us dump our emotions on our soul mate and others like we dump our garbage.

We scream, we blame, we accuse, we belittle, we withdraw, we avoid romance and then we make up or we break up.

It is so easy to find fault with our partner or to conclude that something is wrong with the relationship.

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Live for your relationship
Enjoy infinite joy and happiness

Actively find ways to rid yourselves of crap and focus on the joy.


Enjoy the Many Fruits

Typically, you’ll get into a relationship and within a short space of time, you’ll get into arguments, distractions, and into a headspace where you wonder whether that relationship is the right thing for you.

The biggest piece of relationship advice I can give to you is that cultivation will lead to bountiful rewards.

Just like keeping an eye on your bank account and all the little things you spend money on will boost your bank balance, looking out for your soul mate, a balanced romance and the emotional well-being of your partner, will all lead to:

  • a healthy relationship
  • packed with romance
  • abundant and loving sexual energy
  • never another broken heart
  • great communication will lead to your own intimate exchange of relationship advice
  • greater levels of physical intimacy and emotional intimacy


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It is worth the effort
But you need to decide to do this yourself … for both your sakes!


Replant and Repeat

Nuff said. You keep doing, keep improving and keep your eyes on the importance of you both.


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Speak Your Mind, With Your Opinion

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

15 thoughts on “Romance and Love – How To Cultivate and Get More Relationship Balance”
  1. Exactly! Every stuff in the world needs something to eat to keep itself grow and the same as here in human relations.

    As human relations can be expend and more in depth if it filled with the bucket of romance and love among a couple without love and romance its just like a bucket without water or book with blank white pages.

  2. Excellent content.

    Based on my own experience about marriage, most of us did it for the wrong reasons (mostly sexual for males), and while we are so busy supporting a new growing family, we find very little time to interact with your spouse, and maybe even philosophize about our own relationships.

    One day in the future, we realize that we don’t know the person we are married to.

    1. A big welcome to the site, Tony and thank you for sharing your thoughts.

      Yeah, I know I married the first time for the wrong reasons and, as you say, it was certainly hormone based. Those damn little jumping beans! :)

      Where are you in, in the timeline of life and relationships anyway? Not married, 1st, 2nd, 12th?

        1. haha well, talk about being passive in your answer, Tony :)
          ‘Always in’ and ‘it’s complicated’ huh? Sounds like the making of a Guest Post.

          And what exactly does ‘I am happy in spite of relationships’ mean? You’re happy within, whilst the current relationship is in some turmoil?

          1. That’s me, calm & collected. Very pleased to see that you also have a sense of humor :)

            It could be directly due to milestones within my timeline, I just feel happy in myself and the person I am today, thus I don’t ask/expect/need a temporal relationship to have to do it for me.

            Don’t get me wrong, relationships are most important, and if you meet your “soul mate”, you are very very fortunate, however this would be the icing on the cake, if you get my drift, but I don’t believe this is a prerequisite to achieving happiness.

            If you go to ‘Tony’s Bio’ within my “About Me” pages you may understand me better by reading a summary of my life:

  3. This is a wonderful post and I so enjoyed taking many great points from it. I love your analogy of pulling out weeds and watering. I just ended a 9 month relationship because I was being watered and I communicated this many months before and gave him a chance to water and so since I inspire for a living I had to take my own advice of Do Not Settle….

    So true these fabulous points,
    Thank you!

    1. I’m so glad you got something from my post, Nancy.
      Sad to see a relationship end though. Though we all need to ensure we continually strive for a better life for ourselves as well as making sure we’re in a relationship with ‘the right person’.

      Did your ex understand what was wrong in your relationship or was it a matter of resistance and, perhaps, ego?

      1. After I advised him what I felt was wrong for the 3rd time then he confessed that he didn’t put the effort into the relationship. The wonderful part is that he stated that the love I showed him he never experienced and the closest thing to God’s love here on earth….

        I am Love,

        1. Some people just fail to realise when they’re on a good thing, do they?

          And if they do relaise it, lots never bother to put an effort into the relationship to sustain it and then it falls apart and they say ‘Huh, what happened?’.

  4. Well, I wish I had a man to try this stuff out on LOL

    I’m now on the hunt for one, since I’m ready and willing after 12 months coming out of a rather bitter divorce with my ex-husband. I can plainly see from this info that we really didn’t even start that relationship very well. We both harbored our own secrets. Probably because we never built up the right level of trust with each other.

    Thank you for these tips. And watch out whoever the new man in my life might be LOL He’ll be in for one heck of a surprise and confrontation LOL

  5. This is a great post! I particularly liked the part of planting the right seeds. I think that the most crucial part of every relationship is the beginning, when we are still getting to know each other and knowing how we are as individuals because it is what leads us to growing and maturing as a couple. I agree that there are certain things that couples need to discuss and agree upon that can’t just be left by chance, and yes, open, honest and constant communication is right at the top.

    1. Hey, thanks for the visit and comment, Jan.

      What are your thoughts on where new couples tend to go wrong in the relationship beginning? Any ideas to help our readers?

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