Let The Screams Begin
I can hear those guys sighing in the back, over there.
They’ve always known it.
Forget to get the lady a gift on the ‘anniversary of the day you first noticed me’ and they’re cooked.
But They Cost Money!
Guys are so hooked up on money and not wanting to spend to receive. When it comes to gifts, you’ve got salary sacrifice options, you can put a little away each week or simply look for low budget gifts from markets – there isn’t any excuse for not being able to afford a gift!
If you want to know just how important gifts are in a relationship, take a poll of the millions of twenty and thirty-something, long suffering guys.
They know all about it.
1. You Just Can’t Win Otherwise
There are days that make a person feel special.
Only thing is, with the fair sex, there are many days that make them feel special. There are anniversaries of when the two of you met, when you first kissed and when you two started going steady.
The ladies have this fantastic ability to remember special days. Don’t ask me how they do it. On that day, when you’re all tired and fuzzy (and your memory’s done a bunk), their eyes will check for a bulge in your shirt pocket.
A gift, you think?
Of course a gift!
What else?
2. A Gift Helps Clear Up Jealous Fits
If you’re savvy like me, you’ll visit one of those discount thrift stores and buy some pretty things in advance.
Buy them, get them gift wrapped and stock up, guys.
I am telling you, this strategy never fails. The day you know she’s going to throw a jealous fit coz some friend of hers saw you with an old flame, whip out a pre-bought, pre-parcelled gift and the game’s yours.
Store your gifts for her away from gifts for men you know; don’t mix them up, or your goose is well and truly cooked!
3. It’s Just The Thing When You Cannot Explain
Just like a picture is worth a thousand words, a gift is worth a thousand explanations that could go wrong from the first word.
Just shut up, and present something with a flourish.
Add some goofy, romantic bit about how much you missed her. Tell her you’re sorry about whatever it was but thoughts of her keep distracting you. When you’ve done something that just cannot be explained, let the gift do the talking for you.
It’s just a small thing, but a gift bears a powerful message, and speaks so much better than you ever can.
4. A Gift Increases Your Reputation
This one is real important, so listen up.
From the moment you start dating seriously, your social reputation is out of your hands. Why, you wonder? Stop wondering, I’ll tell you. Women talk. They share every itty bitty thing with their gal pals and the gals then tell their boyfriends everything.
Even the mafia is not as well linked as the female ladies room network (yes, that’s where most of the ‘do you know’ gossiping happens).
Trust me, a gift now and then ‘just like that’ will keep you in everyone’s good books, jerk or not. After all, how wrong can you or your intentions be, if you keep spending on her? And could you possibly be the insensitive kind, if you are always ready to make up in the sweetest way, memento in tow?
5. Gifts Can Get You Entry Into Privy Networks
A hushed word here and a hushed word there – that’s all it takes.
All of a sudden, doors open, parents are happy with you, and you get introduced to their peers. Then follow the invites to golf parties, to family events, clubs – hell, maybe even a great job recommendation! It’s not without perks, my brothers.
Keep the gifts coming.
Just don’t make it look orchestrated or unnatural.
6. Gifts Can Make You Hard To Replace
You have to put in some real effort here. Remember the ‘special anniversaries’, track her PMS days and gift something on odd days just to cheer her up. Make sure you don’t run out of gift ideas; observing your girl and watching what she wears, eats and watches should give you enough ideas.
You don’t have to blow money on each gift, just make sure it sends out the right message.
You’ll be real hard to replace, man.
7. Gifts Make Moving On That Much Easier
Your girlfriend’s girlfriends know you to be the gifting kind (the very best kind). Their boyfriends’ sisters know it, and so do their boyfriends and so on. Honestly, pretty much the entire county knows it and so do the moms of all the pretty girls around.
So if you girlfriend does drop you, no issues.
You can easily get dates.
That’s the way to go!
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Author Bio: Teena works for Adrenalin, an Australian gifts website with over 2,000 gift ideas for men across Australia and New Zealand.











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Shalin
If somebody forgot their anniversary, that is surely going to be the end of the world. Some people like caring more than gifts. But that is not the case if you forgot the most important day of your life :P really good post that reminded me of my hot date!
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Martin
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haha well at least the post gave you the gift of memory, Shalin :)
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Anita
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I don’t know what it is about this article that doesn’t sit well with me. I don’t think there is anything offensive in there as it was previously mentioned but I just didn’t have a moment when I thought, ‘That’s a great one!’ As always, this is said with all due respect I just found this post missed the mark a little for me.
Anita. x
Martin
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Hey, any and all feedback is good feedback, Anita.
I am interested in hearing more of what you think might have been missing, in your opinion though.
You do think it was missing ‘Why you really should’ or didn’t it make sense in some way?
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Anita
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Hi Geek!
I went to leave a response to this and another post you replied to when I noticed that all of the Keyword Luv Keywords I’ve used before have vanished and it’s just my name now. Did some of my comments get disapproved or deleted or something like that? :(
Anita. x
Martin
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Aloha Anita,
Actually, I’ve disabled the Keyword Name ability across the site altogether.
Google will have severely penalised you due to identical Keyword Spam and that’s a nasty thing to happen to your site. Apologies if that change has inconvenienced you in any way.
The best option is the CommentLuv backlink
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Hey Anita – it’s been reinstated after some conversation and investigation.
Just a word of warning though – please do make sure you use some variety in the keywords as it may become a signal to Google which has the capacity to penalise your website.
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Teena
Hi Martin, I don't have any favorite gift like that. Its just the feeling that matters the mose
Martin
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All good, Teena. Thought you might have a gut feel on the sorts of gifts guys mostly opted for. I was more after an insight than specific numbers but that's cool. Thanks for coming back too.
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John J
Cool article, love it. It's not disrespectful to women at all – if you listen to any of my mates talking, this is how exactly they express their feelings about gifting! And let's face it, ultimately, we love the girls and if a gift can keep them smiling and loving, I say pile on the gifts. All in the spirit of love, of course.
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You shouldn't find anything intentionally disrespectful to women or men on the site, John. I isn't what we're about. Just finding our way in this beautiful wondrous world, is all :)
Thanks for the visit and also your point of view too
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Russiamore
I tend to agree with Teena – everyone loves attention and appreciation. Women most times underestimate the power of gifts, thinking that it's men's thing to bring gifts, that they are the gifts themselves and that's enough
Martin
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I think you could say that for men and women, quite frankly.
Ever heard the saying 'Gods' gift to women'? – there are guys out there with that mentality too.
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Martin
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Nice blog post, Tania. I enjoyed reading as well as gaining an additional insight or two.
It's funny but from my male brain, the article's tone almost verges on how to go about tricking women to like you by buying them gifts. I know that would be fundemenatally incorrect as I'm sure lots of men and women feel appreciated by a gift.
Do all women like receiving gifts though?
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Teena
Hello Martin,
Thanks for your comment. Gifts are great way to make things better especially if your relationship is in a tough phase. The articles was not about tricking women but how giving small gifts can make things better to best.
And regarding your question- not only women but everyone loves getting gifts. Gifts give the feeling to gift recipient of being valuable.
Martin
Twitter: GeekandJock
Hey Teena,
I'm curious. What would be your most popular gift that guys have bought to give to their lady?
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