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Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Born – Part One

I’m 54 years years young and sometimes I reflect on my life.
What’s done is done and life goes on.

One moment blends and forms your present, to evolve your future.

Thinking I’ve made mistakes is the wrong mindset.

Decisions in life is simply the journey.


Past Decisions

What I might have done differently could help others adopt a different direction.

Allow others to ponder on my life decisions.

If it sounds reasonable, perhaps their life will be enriched.


#1 – Trust … with Caution and Balance

A new-borne hasn’t an option but to trust.

trust with balance and care
Be one with the stones when it comes to trust in others.

They are helpless when they come into the world.

Even now, my trust in others continues.

I know I trust more than I should and am often let down when that trust fails to return. That’s my own human faith, in others.

Lesson 1

  • Develop balance in trusting others and understanding people have their own agendas.
    • Often, these agendas will not align with your purpose and aspirations.
  • If they don’t, that’s fine to.
    • Just be aware to jettison them prior to personal disappointment.


#2 – Relationship Endurance

Nothing in life is permanent.

nothing in life is permanent
We have regrets due to ‘attachment’.
Isn’t there a far better way to act?

People come into and out of your life, usually for a purpose.

We’re borne being completely consumed with our own needs and nourishment – we’re helpless, after all. That habit continues until adolescent hormones kick in and signal a change of focus.

We’re still habitually self-centred but there’s something else inside us that we unconsciously feel needs changing.

Without giving up some of ourselves to a potential mate, we know things aren’t going to get very far.

Looking back on those early dating and courtship years, I and probably you, realise we went a little overboard in thinking our first, second and third ‘loves’ were going to be our soulmate.

In retrospect, nothing is ever final and neither are relationships.

Lesson 2

  • Develop an early understanding of relationship principles.
    • It’s more than OK to be incompatible with someone else.
  • Find the true meaning of letting go, with a lack of attachment
    • I’d suggest a foundational reading of Buddhism would be a great start to an teenager.
    • Practise meditation – it’s helped me significantly
    • I wish I had.


#3 – The Bucket List

Areas we know we’d love to experience and never do, due to ‘one thing or another’.

live life now
Take the gamble and just do it

I’d be like a lot of people.

There are so many things I’ve always wanted to do and simply never found the time or opportunity to do them.

Later in life, I realised that’s just a blatant excuse to not engage. 54 years is more than enough time to plan, save and do – don’t you think?

Here’s a few examples of what I mean:

1. In my early 30s, I had this thirst to dabble in online trading. It never went very far because I didn’t have a system. Nowadays, I teamed up with a guy I know and I’m off and running. Pursuit and determination win the day.

2. Then there’s my past dabbling in my want to become proficient in meditating. I’ve complained in the past of being unable to ‘stop the talk in my head’ – that’s an excuse. I’m now simply ‘DOING’ – it’s a great thing too.

I stumble, for sure. I’m still a beginner. But you know what? It’s working on bringing me inner peace, even now. So the very act of doing brings receiving and that’s something truly worthy.

Lesson 3

As Yoda once said:

  • It’s not a matter of regret either.
  • Think about the new experiences, expanded relationship dynamics and togetherness, not to mention the possibilities and opportunities those experiences will very likely bring to your life.

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

10 thoughts on “3 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was Born”
  1. We should always learn from our past decisions and past mistakes and most of all we should make the most of our today. Great post

  2. Regrets as they say come in the end. I’m very much appreciative of those who share their own bouts with failure so others may take heed and become more cautious. At the end of the day, what matters is the fact that we remain strong, resilient and wise the next time around. Thanks for sharing!

  3. Lovely post, Martin. No one has a perfect life, we all make many mistakes in life and the best thing to think about is how much we have learned due to those mistakes. Past never comes back, future is never known to anyone, so just live your present to the fullest, because you never know, which moment is your last..:)

  4. I don’t think it would be realistic not to regret some things in life, because then you wouldn’t be taking chances and making mistakes, something we all do. I think the important this is not to dwell on our regrets and move forward anyways… doing things differently in the future. Who is so pristine they can honestly say they wouldn’t have done one thing differently, I don’t know. It’s a strong emotion evoking catch phrase in the movies: No Regrets.
    This was a really great post, nice touch with the pictures and Yoda quote.

    1. I’m more talking about switching the negative feeling of what a regret is, to viewing past actions as a learning experience to pass on to others to learn from.
      Having regrets is a waste of time since changing just one thing in your past would change what and where you are now – kinda like time travel :)
      But I agree with you Mike that all of us would have ‘liked’ to have done at least one thing differently.

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