Confused by What Men Want? Read On …

Remain an individual and beautiful woman, OK?

Here’s the Top 5 things that guys will decide upon when picking a woman they’ll want to spend the rest of their lives with.

So here goes ….


1. Obvious Outer Beauty

Beauty isn’t so apparent and I’ll tell you why.

Women radiate beauty, both inside and out. The first attraction will most certainly be external beauty but that’s really just the initial bait.

Any woman reading this really does need to understand they simply have to be themselves, naturally.

Hoping to capture a guy under false pretenses is a total waste of everyone’s time.

Be Real and Keep It Real, Ladies

2. Inner Beauty

To keep the guy hooked, for the long term, there is going to have to be a compatible and complementary internal shine.

There is a general feeling amongst younger girls that they need to surrender to the testosterone-fueled young bucks and end up acting ditzy, without a clue.

Long-term ‘real’ guys are looking for a woman with substance.

Does any woman really think a man will want to marry an airhead?

Remain an individual and beautiful woman.

Keep your distinctiveness and who you are.

Enrich your individuality, through a combination and extension of that new man in your life.

3. Is It Sameness or Difference?

I love all the same things that he does, we’re perfect!

On the surface, thinking that the both of you are the perfect match because you are like a mirror image of him is fraught with danger. Why?

Guys are looking for comfort and exchange of differences.

Most people are, actually.

All individuals love a certain level of challenge and exposure to new experiences.

So girls, please do ensure you’re into areas that he’s not.

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You tell me
Is it better to live your own life and share it or…
…pretend to be something you’re not and live a total facade?

It could be as simple as wine tasting, netball, whatever. Those are new things that he will be interested in knowing more of and want to experience with you, as they are differences.

As an example, when I met my second wife, South African, Pamela Allen, we had mutual interests in Spirituality, exercise, and fitness and even a commonality in divorce and past relationships.

We also had differences in past relationship experiences, which came from completely different countries and cultures.

We had lots to talk about and share as well as common goals in life.

Personally, it was like magic and we both love having experienced the vast divergence in meeting someone from another country.

This is definitely a huge reward for those couples in a long-distance relationship too.

They might not know it but the agitation they withstand in the inception will serve as an attractive force and glue for many years.

4. Keep My Identity Intact

Ever heard of girlfriends literally smothering a guy?

This happens more than you think. Like most people, men also wish to retain their identities and who they are.

Start and go easy.

Guys will unconsciously be gauging the level of freedom and expression that any new gal will be giving them. While mothering is obviously strong in all females, a boyfriend isn’t a child and will certainly object to being treated like one.

Treat the guy as a man and not as a boy – though all males tend to still like their toys and gadgets :)

5. Self Esteem

Ensure you’re giving him the breathing space to have high self-esteem and confidence.

But why is that so significant?

To tell the truth about guys, we do actually have a fragile ego.

Men have an inner and primal driving force when it comes to competing.

They compete in almost every aspect of their lives so self-esteem and confidence are certainly highly important to their success.

Believing in a new guy’s ability tells him he has a potential partner he can trust and confide in.

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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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