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smile and reduce the stress in life
Smile and reduce the stress in life

Stress is the number ONE killer of people and that’s a fact.

Stress is also the number ONE reason relationships fail as well.

When we live with another, there’s a natural tendency to want to protect our partner’s from life’s troubles but what I’ve found is that is entirely the wrong thing to be doing.

You take on the whole burden yourself which builds up inside and causes all manner of illness and leads to immense internal stress.

….. Leading to a Domino Effect on all your life including your relationship.

Unless you gain support in helping you cope and pull yourself from the black hole, things are going to go pear shaped, spiralling you ever downward.

Take affirmative action right now or in the future with these simple stress management techniques. OK?

Go for a Walk – Shake Out the Cobwebs

One of the easiest activities anyone can start with their loved one.

Going for a stroll with your babe and getting some exercise gets the endorphins activated too so the increase in blood flow is a great way to get the brain thinking.

With that you can …

Talk About Reducing Stress

As I mentioned earlier, you need to share the troubles and burden with the loved one. They could well have ideas in reducing stress plus you already know that they’re always there to help.

Get talking – two brains are always better than one in problem solving.

They also understand the situation and are able to better support you, even if they’re unable to come up with a solution immediately.

Focus On What You Can Control

Humans have this weird habit of stressing about areas in our lives that we have no control over.

When you think about that, it’s self defeating, isn’t it?

Funnily enough though, by giving attention on what we can control (and taking action too) very often leads to events that alter our stressful areas.

Situation: We’ve been fired from work and no-one will give you a job. You have no control over what others do, do you?

What you can focus on is your own talents and skills.

Chip away at tapping your network of friends as well as offering to build your own business, no matter how small.

One you can’t control while another you can and the latter focuses away from stress towards something meaningful.

stress less and live better
Stress less and live better

Reminisce About Good Times

Remove yourself from the thoughts of your woes with the good times in life.

Nothing helps better than raising your awareness about your accomplishments and positive thoughts.

Smile For Goodness Sake!

  • A smile is infectious.
  • Positive thoughts lead to positive outcomes too.
  • Positive outcomes reduce your stress.

Just think about the feeling you get when someone smiles at you.

Even if you don’t know them , you feel good inside, don’t you? And while you’re feeling good, you aren’t stressing either!

Kinda makes sense to put on a happy face, doesn’t it?

Go Ask For a Hug

Whether you know it or not, physical contact just makes us all feel good inside.

And I don’t know anyone who has ever been refused a hug before either.

All people love getting a hug as well as giving them.

What a great win-win situation a hug is, huh?

Look For Opportunities in Life’s Challenges

You’ve heard that every cloud has a silver lining, right?

Every successful entrepreneur has climbed the success ladder in finding a need to fill.

I know myself that when I give focus to looking outside myself (and the crap I might be in in the moment), I usually have one of those Aha Moments when the fog lifts and I regain clarity of purpose.

Clarity isn’t possible when you’re in stress so you need to change the mindset. Small increments are a good start to larger blocks of clarity.

You just have to start.

Dance It Out, Baby

Reducing stress isn’t a one person affair. Well, it shouldn’t be anyways.

Take the time and interact with others, anyone.

Take 10 minutes and have a coffee with a friend and shoot the shit. You’ll be surprised the thoughts it will conjure up.

Taking the time away from giving focus to your troubles reduces stress build-up, gives you a break and regains some sanity.

Just Breathe

This is more about breathing and learning some meditation techniques.

It’s the ultimate chill out exercise that you can do anytime and anywhere.

I started meditating myself 6 months ago – I got the app to prove it :)

What I’ve found is me becoming more calm than I’ve ever been.

If I ever need to reduce and relieve stress, I take 25 minutes out of the day and meditate (which is truly breathing in a different way)

And Go to Bed Early.

While more sleep time is always good for the body, we’re talking reducing stress here.

So going to bed early means more lovemaking and romance.

It’s all about those endorphins, baby.


From AskAlice:
Orgasms and Endorphins
the most recent thinking is that exercise, as experienced during running as “runner’s high,” for example (and, likely, by extension, other activities that cause the release of endorphins, such as sex), can help treat depression


Now you know all the easy-to-do ways in reducing stress, go get ’em


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Enjoying newly found freedoms in South-East Asia, Martin is a down to earth, honest, quirky humor, compassionate and upfront kinda guy. Easy going and love to laugh. Into good food, wine and great company. I’ll talk and try to help anyone.
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Martin Cooney – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

19 thoughts on “Reducing Stress And Living Better – Go Do This Stuff”
  1. Some of these are so simple but I know from personal experience they work. I can take the stress inwardly sometimes and the only way I can get it straight in my mind is by going for a walk. There is something about going on autopilot, getting some fresh air, and thinking things through without obsessing about them. I always return feeling like a weight has been lifted.

    1. Yep, totally true. Exercise can do wonders for body and mind.
      It’s a matter of taking the first step and doing something about it that can be an initial challenge.

  2. It’s all about those endorphin’s baby – I love it. This is so relatable to anybody that reads it. Everybody feels stressed and everybody needs a good guideline on how to get some relief from all the worry caused by life and things you just can’t control. Taking a walk does it for me:)

    1. Ha Love it, Marie.
      ‘They’ say that getting out in the sun and grabbing the Vitamin D is like popping 10 anti-depressant pills. Not sure if you’ve ever heard that yourself.

      I’m a regular walker as well. For the sun, exercise as well as zoning inwards with a bit of meditation non-thinking.
      Do you find yourself pondering as well?

  3. I’m a bit stressed out lately so this article seemed to be written just for me. I already put some of the tips it gives into practise (trying to focus on what I can control, breathing or thinking about the good old relaxed days). I’ll definitely try dancing _I’ve heard belly dancing is an awesome stress shaker_ and smiling more as well.

    1. Sorry to hear you’ve been stressed, Mariana – is it major stress for you?
      Yeah though, there’s lots we all can do to calm the stress down.
      It’s a bit like holding a glass of water – you’ve just got to put it down at some point before you can pick it up again.

      And remember to party too – celebrate small victories!

  4. Love this article, I think stress gets to everyone at some point, I remember reading this story once which has helped me with stress, I call them my stress fogs when I worry about things like money and over think things in my mind and work myself up. Anyway this story helped me escape my fogs:

    “A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

    The lecturer replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance.”

    “In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes,” he continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry all of our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

    “As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden. So, whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. Don’t pick them up again until after you’ve rested a while. They will then seem so much lighter.”

    I like this as it reminds you sharing your woes and worries, talking and doing activities such as those mentioned above, allows you time to breathe and re-assess more clearly. Plus, a hug always makes everything better :)

    1. Hey that’s a cool story and analogy, Hannah and one worth remembering.
      Stress gets to us all, at some point and worse for some than others so giving it a break in the best way you can, is certainly desirable.
      Taking the importance of doing it even further is the growing belief that stress also promotes health threatening ailments as well.
      Have you read that yourself?

  5. Brother Martin, You have Great skills of writing ,,you always influence me by your articles,,,It is the one more example of Great art of writing,,,i like your article really Stress is like nuclear bomb who can destroy the life of any person ,,,I always recommend people to get away from stress,, and for that best way is sharing your matters and remembering your past golden moments ,,,

  6. I have been told that I have great faith in life, but sometimes, this faith gets shaken in extremely stressful times. This post reminded me why it’s important to unload your burden and share it with someone. Great post Martin!

    1. Oh my, that sounds ominous, Gary but so glad my thoughts were able to help in some way.
      Hope things are rocking OK for you now though, my friend.

  7. Those are definitely good tips to relax, find positive energy and lower our stress level.
    However I don’t personally think we should deny our partner’s troubles and not get involved and help, just so that we can live our own life better.
    A relationship involves actions from both and to help each other out. Without it, we would be 2 people sharing a bed but living separate lives… And I guess that would be the perfect reason that will stress me out everyday!!! ;)

    1. Hey Sandra and thanks for making a comment too.
      Who said anything about denying your partner?
      Point 2 is talking about it :)
      Thing is its likely your partner wants to shield you from their stress so you might not even know. My point is that you do need to share since that is what makes up a solid relationship foundation and it reduces your stress levels by doing it.
      Ever had a situation where you didn’t know your partner was stressed or what they were stressed about?

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