nerd girl with green hair

Like it or not, we are currently experiencing the advent of the nerd girl in mainstream culture.

I should know.

I’m one of them.

original nerd girl is batgirl
The original nerd girl – my hero


And I’m a Typical Nerd Girl Too

I’d like to think that I’m fairly typical in that regard.

For your convenience, I’ll give you a taste of my nerd cred.

As a kid, I used to watch VHS tapes of Sailor Moon over and over again, only pausing to tape tracing paper to the television screen to copy poses and expressions that I particularly liked.

When I got a little older, I spent countless hours making “All Your Base Are Belong to Us” image macros, posting on 4chan, and making internet friends on Lord of the Rings-themed AOL chatrooms.

Even as a young adult, I’m more than happy to wax poetic about the intricacies of Final Fantasy VII’s storyline with anyone who’s willing to listen.


Do You Think I’m Sexy?

That doesn’t sound very sexy to me, but the recent popularization of nerd culture has put nerds in a strange place.

All of a sudden, we’re hip, and everyone either wants to be us or be with us.

For instance, writer John Green famously said, “Nerd girls are the world’s most underutilized romantic resource.” While I do object to being called a “resource,” his attitude has become fairly typical.

Thanks to our very strong sense of identity, nerd girls kind of throw a wrench into the typical romantic narrative: in a lot of ways, we can be a bit pickier than the average lady.

More than a few guys have asked me recently about how they can make themselves appealing to people like me, so I’ve decided to boil it down to a few key ideas.


Read These 3 Steps to a Nerd Girl Heart


If you don’t already have a hobby, get one!

I’ve already talked about that on Geek and Jock, but it’s so important that I feel that I must reiterate that point. Since I feel really strongly about my nerdy hobbies, I need someone who can match my fervor with something that is just as interesting as the X-men.

I can empathize much more easily with people who have real, sincere passions, even if it’s something like collecting pocketknives or rocks.



It’s important to respect that a nerd girl knows what she’s talking about.

I can’t even count the number of times that I’ve been talked down to or argued with simply because a guy just couldn’t believe that I was capable of engaging with nerdy texts just as well (or even better) than he could.

Simply put, spare me your mansplaining: you can trust me to know about the finer points of Advanced Dungeons & Dragons.

It’s silly to let your ego get in the way of a good game!



Perhaps most importantly, don’t treat a nerd girl like she’s inferior to more typical girls.

If you’re just interested in me because you think I’m going to have lower standards than the Paris Hiltons of the world, don’t even waste my time. I want someone who can appreciate everything about me, from my brilliance to my wit to my awesome boobs.

Nerd culture is chock full of terrible female characters who are really only used for the T&A factor (think Scarlet Witch — yuck!), so we often don’t have the highest self-esteem.

Letting us know that we deserve to be heroines too will do a lot for us!


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Just a Nerd Girl

Soleil – who has written posts on GeekandJock.

4 thoughts on “What Does A Nerd Girl Look For?”
  1. Great post! It’s nice to be treated like a fellow nerd. And one of the other good things about being a nerd girl is you’re more likely to have nerd kids too :)

  2. Nerdy girls are definitely not inferior. They are girls like any other, special in their own way. I resonate with what you wrote in here. Great tips. Cheers!

  3. Ha ha, I’ve still got a T-shirt of “All Your Base Are Belong to Us”. Nice to see someone else reminiscing over those geeky/nerd things :)

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